Things would be so much simpler if we could easily tell when someone has a crush on us, right?
Well, a crush might be a secretive thing, but there are always clues!
If you’re wondering (or hoping) a particular guy has a crush on you, you should look for the signs.
In this article, I’m listing 21 things guys do when they have a crush on you!
21 Things Guys Do When They Have a Crush on You
1. He’s Trying to Get To Know You Better
One of the most important things to a guy who has a crush on you is getting to know you better.
Depending on how brave or brazen the guy is, you may or may not notice he’s doing it unless you take a good look at his actions.
If he’s obviously going out of his way to get to know you, it’s a strong sign he has a crush.
2. He Is Clearly Nervous Around You
This is another very telling sign a guy has a crush on you.
He may get tongue-tied, blush or even sweat when he’s around you.
If he can’t seem to keep his cool in your presence, it means you definitely have an effect on him!
Nervousness is almost always a sign of attraction. If you enjoy seeing or making him a little hot under the collar, enjoy it!
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3. He Uses Any Excuse to Make Physical Contact
Have you ever noticed a guy “accidentally” brush your arm or leg?
Or maybe he gives you a hug that lingers just a little too long?
Physical contact is another way guys try to show they’re interested (as long as it’s not in a creepy way!).
If he’s constantly finding ways to touch you, it means he definitely has a crush!
4. He Wants You to Get To Know His Friends
If a guy is interested in you, he’ll want you to get to know the people who are important to him.
Introducing you to his friends and family is a way of saying “I like you, and I want you to be a part of my life.”
It’s also a way he can show you off and get some validation from your friends that you’re everything he’s been telling them you are.
5. He’s Always Staring or Glancing at You
You may have noticed he’s always looking in your direction, even when you’re not talking.
Or perhaps you’ve caught him staring at you from across the room.
If he can’t seem to take his eyes off of you, it means he’s definitely interested!
Staring or glancing is one way guys try to show they’re interesting, crushing on, or like someone.
6. He Shows an Interest in How You’re Doing
If he asks how your day is going or what you’re up to, it means he cares about you and wants to know more about your life.
He’s interested in you as a person and wants to make sure you’re doing well.
This is definitely a sign he has a crush on you!
Caring and concern are two strong signs, and it also feels good to know someone really cares, doesn’t it?
7. He Treats You to Gifts or Special Things
If he’s always doing things to try to make you happy or giving you little gifts, it means he has a crush on you.
It could be something as simple as bringing you your favorite coffee in the morning or picking up a book he knows you wanted.
Whatever it is, it’s the thought that counts and it’s the thought that shows you he really likes you.
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8. He Is Always Offering His Services
If he’s always offering to help you or do something for you, it means he cares about you and wants to be there for you.
He probably also wants to show off a little, so you might want to let him help sometimes to see how handy he is!
9. He Blushes or Gets Flustered When You Talk to Him
Blushing and getting flustered is another sign that he’s interested in you, and you may have even been on the other side of this yourself.
He may get tongue-tied, blush or even sweat when he’s around you.
If he can’t seem to keep his cool in your presence, it means you definitely have an effect on him!
10. He Gets Close to You When You Talk
If he’s always trying to get closer to you when you’re talking, it means he’s interested in you.
He may lean in, stand close, tilt his head, or even try to get you alone and get in your personal space.
This is his way of trying to create a little intimacy between the two of you.
If you like him – which I’m sure you do – it feels good, doesn’t it?
11. He Looks at Your Lips When You Talk
If he’s looking at your lips when you’re talking, it means he’s thinking about kissing you.
Lip-locking is definitely on his mind, and he’s hoping you feel the same way!
He may even lick his own lips too as his brain processes the thought of kissing you, keep a close eye out!
12. He Acts Differently Around You Than Others
If he’s acting differently around you than he is with other people, it means you have some sort of effect on him.
Exactly what that effect you’re having on him is for you to figure out.
But knowing guys as I do, it’s almost a given that he fancies you or is crushing on you.
He may act shyer, reserved, or quiet around you or he may act more outgoing.
It all depends on his personality and what makes him feel comfortable.
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13. He Acts a Bit Goofy or Silly Around You
If he’s always acting a bit silly or goofy around you, it means he’s trying to make you laugh and get your attention.
He may tell bad jokes, do impressions or make funny faces.
Whatever it is, he’s definitely got his eye on you!
Don’t be too put off if he’s annoying, this is just a momentary brain fuzz and release of hormones that happens when you’re around.
It won’t happen when you get to know him better and he can relax.
14. He’s Quick to Apologize, Even When It’s Not Necessary
If he’s always apologizing for things, even when it’s not necessary, it means he’s being super sensitive around you.
He may even feel like he’s doing something wrong or that he’s not good enough for you and is pushing you away.
This is a sign of insecurity and low self-esteem, but don’t worry – these are qualities that can be worked on and shouldn’t be there if you get close.
15. He Finds an Excuse to Text You
If he’s always texting you, even if it’s just to say hi or ask how your day is going, it means he likes you.
He may not be the best at communicating his feelings, but he definitely wants to stay in touch with you and feels comfortable doing so via text.
Texting is a good way to get a crush to say things that he doesn’t have the nerve to do in person, so take advantage!
16. He Gets Jealous When You Are With Other Guys
Is he always getting jealous when you’re talking to or hanging out with other guys?
He may not show it, but when a guy has a crush on you he definitely won’t like seeing you with anyone else as he wants your attention for himself.
This could be a sign that he’s possessive and maybe even a little bit controlling, so be wary of this behavior.
17. He Asks Your Friends About You
If he’s always asking your friends about you, it means he’s trying to get to know you better without being too direct.
He may not have the guts to ask you himself, but it’s a big step and shows he definitely wants to know more about you!
18. He Is Clearly Nervous Around You
If he’s always fidgeting or seems nervous when he’s around you, it means he’s worried about making a good impression.
He may be worried about what you think of him and whether or not you like him back.
This is a sign that he’s interested in you but doesn’t want to screw things up, so take it easy on him!
19. He Seems to Always Turn up Where You Are
Is he always turning up where you are, even if it seems like it’s just a coincidence?
Or does he obviously go out of his way to be where you are?
Either way, this is a sign that he’s interested in you and wants to spend time with you.
He may not be good at expressing himself, but turning up in person is a surefire way to show you that he’s interested.
20. He Asks Your Opinion of Things That Mean a Lot to Him
If he asks for your opinion on things that mean a lot to him, it’s a sign that he trusts you and values your opinion.
He may not always agree with you, but he wants to know what you think and how you feel about things.
This is a sign of respect and shows that he cares about your thoughts.
For most guys, this is a really big deal. It shows vulnerability when they ask a girl for their opinion on something that’s close to them, take it as a compliment.
21. He Teases (Or Flirts) With You
If he’s always teasing you or flirting with you, it’s another sign that he likes you and is interested in you.
This is his way of showing you that he cares about you and wants your attention, and is also testing your reaction.
Flirting is a fun way to show someone that you like them, so take it as a compliment and enjoy the banter!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.