This is always a tough one to answer; how often should I see my boyfriend of 3 months?
There is no right or wrong answer to this question as people have different preferences, circumstances, and needs.
What I can tell you, however, is that seeing your partner too much can cause a lot of problems, as can seeing them too little.
Here are some insights on finding the perfect balance of how often you should see your boyfriend!
How Often Should I See My Boyfriend of 3 Months?
As I said, there is no right or wrong answer to how often you should see your boyfriend, but there is certainly some room to act sensibly.
For example, if you live close together, then you’re going to see it as natural to see each other every day or close to that.
But if you don’t live close together and both have demanding jobs that take up a lot of your time, then it might be more realistic to see each other once or twice a week.
Then there are the pressures and emotions that come with a new relationship.
You want to know everything about each other, it’s exciting to spend time together, and you get that nice fuzzy feeling inside!
It’s hard to ignore that, and it’s perfectly normal for couples within the first 3 months of a relationship to want to spend as much time together as possible.
The key is to figure out what works for both of you and to pay attention to how you feel about the amount of time you’re spending together.
Don’t compare yourself to other couples, talk openly about how you feel your relationship is going.
That’s a mature way to start your relationship, and it’s something that’ll help you form a stronger relationship in the long run.
The Problem with Spending Too Much Time with Your Boyfriend
The main problem with spending too much time together is that it can start to wear thin pretty quickly.
You can get sick of each other, you might start to find their habits irritating, and worst of all – you stop missing them!
It’s important to have your own space and time apart from your partner so that you can miss them, appreciate them, and maintain a healthy balance in your relationship.
It can be really easy to get into the habit of seeing each other every day, but if you do this it’ll become hard to break the habit.
This is the issue a lot of couples run into.
They set the bar high for spending every spare moment together early on in the relationship, then as it starts to feel smothering they can’t pull back.
The Problem with Spending Too Little Time with Your Boyfriend
The other side of the coin is spending too little time with your boyfriend.
This can be just as damaging to a relationship as spending too much time together.
If you’re not seeing each other enough, then it’s easy to start feeling disconnected and like you’re in a long-distance relationship – even if you live close by!
It’s essential to have regular quality time with your partner to keep the spark alive and to feel connected to them.
If you’re not sure how much time is enough, a good rule of thumb is to aim for at least one ‘date night’ per week where you can focus on each other without any distractions.
Then also keep good contact with one another and meet up a couple more times if possible.
Listen to Your Heart and Your Head
In the end, it’s up to you to listen to your heart and head and find a balance of how often you should see your boyfriend that feels right for both of you.
It might be different at different stages in your relationship, so don’t be afraid to communicate with each other about how you’re feeling.
I say ‘heart’ and ‘head, because I think we’ll all agree that we can be led by our hearts at times and want to spend every moment in the arms of our partners.
But if you use your head, I’m sure you’ll realize that there are other things in your life you need to spend time on than hanging out with your boyfriend.
You also need to know how to spot the signs that you’re spending too much time together, such as arguing, feeling tired or pressured, falling behind on work and other commitments, etc.
Remember – a healthy relationship is all about balance!
What to Expect After Dating for 3 Months?
The most important thing to remember after dating for three months is that it’s still early!
You’re just getting to know each other and building trust, so don’t expect things to be perfect just yet.
It takes time for couples to really get to know each other and figure out how they work together.
So enjoy the ride, take things at your own pace, and don’t compare yourselves to other couples.
I’m sure you’ll figure out what works for you in time.
At the end of the day, having a successful relationship always comes down to the same thing – communication!
Never be shy about talking to your boyfriend about how you feel the relationship is going, how often you want to see him, and more.
It’s a difficult conversation to have at first, especially if your boyfriend finds it difficult to open up.
But you have to do it. The alternative is keeping your thoughts and feelings inside, and this will only lead to resentment in the long run.
And, you never know, he may be feeling exactly the same as you are!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.