If a guy you’re talking to a lot has a girlfriend, it can quickly spiral into an explosive situation if you’re not careful.
Not to mention you can end up getting hurt if you fall for him.
If you’re in a situation where you’re asking, ‘If he has a girlfriend should I stop talking to him?’ The following advice will help:
He Has a Girlfriend Should I Stop Talking To Him?
I can’t tell you outright if you should stop talking to this guy or not, it’s going to come down to your individual situation.
However, what I can do is tell you that there are some important questions you need to ask yourself in order to protect yourself.
I recommend taking an honest look at the following:
Is He Flirting with You?
The first thing you need to take a good look at is whether or not this guy is actually flirting with you.
Are there any clear signs he’s interested in you?
Is he making an effort to talk to you more than others and on a regular basis?
Does he give you personal compliments and/or pay you special attention?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then it’s likely he’s interested in you and this situation is a little more complicated.
If the two of you are just talking as friends and he’s not flirting, then it shouldn’t matter if he has a girlfriend or not.
Do You Have Feelings for Him?
The next thing you need to be honest about is how you feel about this guy you’re talking to.
Do you have any romantic feelings for him whatsoever?
It’s important to ask yourself this question because if you are developing feelings for him, it’s going to be a lot harder for you to stop talking to him.
It’s one thing to have a friendly chat with someone you’re not interested in (whether they like you or not), but it’s another thing entirely to constantly be talking to someone you have feelings for and they have a girlfriend.
You need to be honest with yourself here so you can make the best decision for your situation.
How Did You Find out He Has a Girlfriend?
This is an important question to ask yourself as well.
How did you find out that he has a girlfriend?
Did he tell you himself or did someone else tell you?
If he’s the one who told you, it could be a sign that he’s comfortable being friends with you and doesn’t want anything more.
Or, he might be testing the waters to see how you react.
On the other hand, if you’ve been talking for a while and he never mentioned he has a girlfriend, it might be a sign that he’s deliberately not being entirely truthful with you.
A lot of guys will keep their relationship secret while talking to other girls to ‘keep their options open’.
I don’t want to call him a player as that’s a strong term, but if he was flirting with you and didn’t tell you he was in a relationship, it sounds like he was being a bit sneaky.
Did His Behavior Change when You Found out He Has a Girlfriend?
While taking into account how you found out he had a girlfriend, it’s important to ask yourself if his behavior changed in any way afterward.
Did he start talking to you less?
Avoid certain topics?
Was he a bit sheepish?
If he started talking to you less or became more distant after you found out he had a girlfriend, it might be a sign that he wasn’t entirely comfortable with you knowing.
It could also be a combination of him being interested in you and now he’s feeling bad because he knows you’ll see him differently.
Body language is key here, too, be sure to pay attention to how he acts around you after finding out his relationship status.
What Does He Tell You About His Girlfriend?
The real test as to whether or not he’s trying to get with you is how he talks about his girlfriend, if at all.
Does he constantly talk about her and come across as all loved up and completely comfortable when talking about her?
Or does he seem uncomfortable when the topic comes up and act like they’re not getting along well?
If he’s moaning about her or making it clear that things aren’t going well, it sounds like he wants you to feel sorry for him and he might be playing on your emotions.
This is a definite sign he’s trying to get with you because he’s putting himself in a position where you could potentially comfort him.
Should You Stop Talking to Him?
Now that you have a clearer picture of how he feels about you and how he talks about his girlfriend, it’s time to make a decision about talking to him.
The answer isn’t a clear one, it’s a decision you need to make that’s going to protect both you and him.
If you have feelings for him, it might be difficult to stop talking to him entirely.
But you really should as you’re only going to end up getting hurt as he has a girlfriend, no matter how happy he says he is.
The best thing you can do is be honest with him about how you feel, even though this is always a difficult conversation to have.
If he feels the same, he’ll sort out his situation and look you up when he’s single.
That way, neither of you are going to get hurt.
It’s a tough thing to balance out, but as long as you’re honest with yourself and with him, what’s meant to be will be.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.