If a girl you like is going hot and cold on you or giving you mixed signals, you might be considering giving her some space.
A question a lot of guys ask themselves is, will she miss me if I leave her alone?
This is hard to answer as it depends on how she feels about you.
What I can tell you is that if she likes you and has feelings for you, giving her space and leaving her alone is likely to make her miss you, yes.
But it doesn’t always work out like this.
Here is how you can handle leaving a girl alone if you want her to miss you:
Will She Miss Me if I Leave Her Alone?
Here’s the deal; when you give someone space and leave them alone, if they like and care about you, they’re going to miss you.
Maybe not right away, but over time they’ll spend more time thinking about the good times you had and they’ll miss you.
The difficult part is that you need to let them do this on their own terms, and there is no telling how long it’ll take and how much they’ll miss you.
It really depends on the relationship you had and what happened to cause you to need to leave her alone.
For example, if you’re on the verge of splitting up, she might miss you but realize that she’s happier without you.
On the other hand, if you’re in the early stages of a relationship and not sure where things are going, your absence might make the heart grow fonder!
Ultimately, it’s almost always better to give someone space than to smother them, you want them to be able to think about their feelings for you without feeling pressured.
So, it’s (almost) always a good idea, and if she does miss you it’s going to be for all the right reasons.
How Long Does It Take for A Girl to Start Missing You?
This is the tough part.
It could take a day, a week, a month, or even longer for her to start missing you.
The answer to this question is the answer no one wants to hear when waiting anxiously for something, “it’ll take as long as it takes.”
It’s something you’re going to have to manage day by day by balancing your anxiety against giving her the time and space both of you need.
If she means a lot to you, I’m not suggesting you never get in contact with her.
But at the same time, if she’s not missing you, as hard as this is to take, you need to accept that there isn’t a romantic connection there.
It’s better to know – and accept – the truth and put your energy elsewhere than to chase a relationship with someone who isn’t fully committed.
How You Can Tell if She’s Missing You
While keeping your distance, what you really want to know is whether or not she’s missing you, right?
Depending on your situation, some of the ways you might be able to tell are:
- She reaches out and contacts you
- She talks about you to your mutual friends
- You catch her looking at you when you bump into her in person
- She posts things on her social media that remind her of you
- She’s liking and commenting on your social media posts
These are just a few examples, and of course, your situation is going to be unique.
It’s difficult if you’re not having any contact with her at all, that’s where playing the waiting game comes in.
If she’s really missing you and wants to see or speak with you, she’ll reach out!
How to Explain Why You Left Her Alone for A While
If it’s been a while and you’ve finally had the chance to speak with her, she might want to know why you left her alone for so long.
You should be honest and explain that you needed time to think about your feelings and what you want from the relationship.
If you felt like you were doing all the chasing and not getting much back from her, tell her that.
Honesty is always the best policy, as is expressing your feelings not matter how vulnerable it makes you feel
Be sure to apologize for any pain you may have caused and assure her that it wasn’t your intention.
If she’s receptive, you can then explain that you’ve also had time to think and you missed her more than she missed you!
What if She Doesn’t Miss You?
If you’ve given her the time and space she needs and she still doesn’t miss you, it might be time to accept that there isn’t a romantic connection there.
It’s not easy to take if you have strong feelings for her, but it’s better to know the truth than to continue chasing something that isn’t meant to be.
There are plenty of other fish in the sea, and you’ll find someone who’s just as into you as you are into them.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends though if that’s something she’s happy with.
If you’re struggling with that then please read my post here where I explain how to remain friends with someone you wanted more from!
Image credits – Photo by Ethan Dow on Unsplash
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.