Do you feel sick when you’re around your boyfriend? Not like, sick with love, but actually physically sick?
Don’t worry, you’re not alone.
This phenomenon is not that uncommon. The reason is that it’s almost always due to a form of relationship anxiety.
Relationship anxiety affects everyone differently. From a little it of nerves, as we most feel when we’re getting to know someone we like, to literally feeling physically sick.
What Is Relationship Anxiety?
Relationship anxiety, like other forms of anxiety, revolves around intense feelings of worry. In the case of relationship anxiety, those feelings are specifically about your relationship.
Most of us have some fears and concerns about our romantic relationships, especially when the relationship is new.
Anxiety is a whole different story though. It goes beyond those small doubts or worries that come with a new relationship.
Someone suffering from anxiety often experiences depression, fatigue, and a wide range of physical issues.
The complicated part is that the anxiety may come from a person’s own insecurities, be as a result of the other person’s behavior, doubts about the relationship, or some other factors.
Related – 7 Signs your partner is nervous around you.
How to Overcome Relationship Anxiety
The problem with anxiety is that it makes you feel like your situation is hopeless. But it’s important to be aware that you can overcome relationship anxiety, you don’t have to put up with the physical and emotional pains.
Some of the ways you can confront your anxieties and overcome them are:
Talking openly with your boyfriend about how you feel and the physical effects it’s had on you is the biggest and most important step.
This is especially important if your boyfriend is doing things that make you anxious, no matter how small these actions may seem.
Mindfulness has had a huge positive influence on my life, so I’m always keen to recommend it to anyone suffering from any form of anxiety.
By being mindful, you’re able to focus on what’s happening in the present moment. Which, I bet is pretty positive. If negative thoughts start to creep in, you can acknowledge them and swiftly move on to what’s happening now.
Confide in Friends and Family
If you’ve ever talked about your problems with friends and family, you’ll know what a huge help it is.
This is particularly important if you’re dealing with relationship anxieties. If you have supportive friends, which I’m sure you do, then it’ll feel like a relief just talking about how you feel.
They will likely be able to offer you some advice and support, and you’ll be surprised how many people also deal with their own anxieties and never say anything.
Seek Professional Help
It’s a big step reaching out for professional help, but it’s really nothing to be embarrassed or have hesitations about.
Remember, therapists and other mental health professionals are trained to help with these exact issues. They are there to help, and will be able to help in ways that no one else can.
Can a Relationship Make You Physically Sick?
Yes, as discussed above, relationship anxiety can make you physically sick. The symptoms can range from a little stomach discomfort to actually throwing up.
It’s often confusing at first, and most people do not associate it with feelings of anxiety. If the symptoms persist whenever you’re around your boyfriend, or even when you think about spending time with him, it’s likely to be anxiety.
Why Do I Get Nauseous When I’m With My Boyfriend?
Feeling nauseous means you’re feeling like you’re about to physically throw up, but don’t actually do so. It is a feeling I’m familiar with, as I’m sure you are, and it’s not a nice feeling.
If you keep getting a nauseous feeling when you’re with your boyfriend, this is almost certainly relationship anxiety.
Depending on the severity of your symptoms, you may be able to push the nauseous feelings aside by taking some deep breaths. But, the reality is that you’re going to need to really address the issue to get on top of it.
If you’re feeling sick, nauseous, or any other physical discomfort whenever you’re around your boyfriend, it’s very likely you’re suffering from relationship anxiety.
As I covered in this article, this form of anxiety can cause a number of physical reactions. It can also be difficult to treat and takes some time.
It’s important that you do something about it. You shouldn’t have to feel sick when you’re hanging out – and I’m sure you don’t want to!
Hopefully, some of the tips and advice in this article helps you to find a solution that works for you. Just remember, be open with your boyfriend, give yourself time, and you’ll find a way to put your anxieties behind you.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.