It’s estimated that around 25% of people have a workplace romance at some point – that’s a lot!
If you’re starting to suspect your wife is cheating with a coworker, you’ll be able to piece it together if you start looking for telltale signs.
Want to know what to look for?
Here are 15 signs of wife cheating at work and what you can do to confirm it:
15 Signs of Wife Cheating at Work!
1. She’s Spending a Lot More Time at Work
It’s always a red flag when a spouse starts working late, doing overtime, and generally spending more time in the office and less time at home.
If your wife is cheating with a coworker, it’s a no-brainer that she will want to spend more time at work so she can be around her new lover.
She might start taking on extra assignments or working weekends so she has an excuse to be at the office more – or it might just all be a farce!
2. She’s Always Talking About a Particular Coworker
If your wife is spending a lot of time with the coworker she’s cheating with, it’s possible she won’t be able to help mentioning his name a lot.
It’s not that she wants to get caught, it’s more so that she doesn’t have much else to talk about!
If your wife is constantly talking about a coworker, take note of who it is and start doing a little investigating.
3. She’s Become Secretive About Her Cell Phone Usage
If your wife is cheating with a coworker, she’s going to want to keep her phone close by at all times so she can talk to him.
She might start keeping her phone on silent or vibrate so you won’t hear it going off, she’ll be quick to answer any calls or texts and might look anxious over waiting to hear from someone.
She might also start to be super secretive about her phone usage so you aren’t able to see who she’s been talking to.
4. She Is Always Making Excuses for Not Being Around
If your wife is spending a lot of time with her affair, the excuses are going to start being more frequent as to why she’s letting you down.
She might say she has to work late, she didn’t realize the time, or there’s an emergency at work – anything to get her out of the house!
You’ll also start to notice she gets her stories mixed up over time, it’s difficult for cheaters to remember what lies and excuses have been used.
5. She Doesn’t Feel ‘Present’ When You’re Together
If your wife is cheating, when you’re finally spending time together, one sign is that it’s like she’s not really there with you.
You might feel like she’s distracted or distant, and she might not be as interested in you and what you have to say has been going on in your life.
This is a classic sign someone is cheating and cracks are starting to show in your relationship, take notice.
6. She Is Making a Lot of Effort for Just Going to Work
If your wife has started making a lot more effort over her appearance just to go to work, this is another red flag that something is up.
She might start wearing more revealing clothes, getting her hair and nails done more often, or maybe she’s even started working out!
All of these things are telling you that she’s trying to impress someone at work, it’s up to you to figure out who!
7. There Has Been an Increase in Work Social Events
Along the lines of spending more time at work and coming up with excuses, one of those excuses might be more social events outside of work.
Maybe there are more events, or maybe it’s a lie so she can just go and see her affair, either way it’s a sign that she’s spending more time with her work colleagues than you.
I’d be suspicious if my wife was attending regular social events with her coworkers, that’s not normal.
8. She Gets Defensive When You Ask Her About Work
When someone is cheating they find it hard not to get defensive when you start asking questions about their actions.
Your wife might start getting snippy or short with you when you ask her about work, she’ll be quick to answer and get angry if you press for more information.
This behavior is often a knee-jerk reaction to feeling guilty and like she’s being accused, take note.
9. You’re Drifting Apart Emotionally
If your wife is cheating, you’ll start to notice that you’re emotionally drifting apart.
You might not be as close as you used to be, you don’t share as much with each other, and there’s a general feeling of disconnect.
This is normal in a relationship where one person is cheating, as the emotional connection is being fulfilled elsewhere.
It’s a big sign that something is wrong and you need to take action.
10. She Doesn’t Let You Mix with Her Work Colleagues
If your wife is cheating with a coworker, they will want to keep their home and work life separate so there’s no chance of getting caught.
It’s very likely her other coworkers have an idea that she’s cheating, or it’s possible they just outright know.
She will not be able to risk having you meet her coworkers in case you put two and two together or they spill the beans and tell you!
11. There Is a Lack of Intimacy Between the Two of You
This is another classic sign that one partner is cheating.
When people cheat they often lose interest in the physical aspect of their relationship with their partner or feel like they’re cheating on their new partner by being physical with their partner!
It’s a sign that she’s getting what she needs elsewhere and you’re being left out in the cold.
12. She Tries Making You Feel Like You’re Not Putting Effort Into Your Relationship
A lot of women will try and play the reverse psychology card or push the blame onto their partner by making them feel like they’re not putting any effort into the relationship.
This is a way of making you feel guilty so you’ll try harder, while she’s out cheating on you!
There is also the possibility that she wants you to start questioning your relationship and give her an out because she’s not brave enough to do it herself.
13. She’s Started Missing Important Dates and Events
If your wife has started forgetting important dates and events, it’s definitely a sign that she’s very distracted.
It could be that she’s so focused on her new relationship that she’s forgetting about you, or maybe she’s trying to create distance between the two of you.
Either way, it’s not a good sign and you should start to worry as an attentive, loved-up partner wouldn’t forget important dates.
14. You Catch Her Texting in The Middle of The Night
This is another sign that she’s communicating with someone at unusual times and trying to keep it hidden from you.
She might think you’re asleep but if you catch her texting in the middle of the night, it’s a sign that she’s up to something.
You could ask what she’s up to and put her on the spot, would be interesting to see what kind of excuse she comes up with on the spot.
15. Your Gut Is Telling You She’s up To Something
At the end of the day, if you have a sneaking suspicion that your wife is cheating on you but you can’t seem to put your finger on it, trust your gut.
You know your wife better than anyone and if you have that feeling in the pit of your stomach, there’s a good chance she’s cheating.
If you’re also able to check off a number of the signs off this list, then I think it’s safe to say that your concerns carry some weight.
The best thing you can do is have a conversation with her about your concerns and see how she reacts.
If she gets defensive or angry, it could be a sign that you’re onto something.
You could also start to do a little investigating of your own. I don’t advocate snooping through her phone, but if you want to do that here are some tips!
You could also check if she’s really working overtime or going to social events if it’s really bugging you, nothing wrong with turning up to surprise her.
If she’s not cheating or doing anything she shouldn’t be, she should be happy to see you!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.