Is your husband getting fat and you find yourself liking it and being more attracted to him than when he was thin?
In a world where the media is always showing perfect physiques and fat-shaming is all too common, I bet you feel a little odd.
There is nothing wrong with how you’re feeling. In fact, it’s great that you love your husband for who he is – an extra few pounds or not!
My Husband Is Getting Fat and I Like It – Am I Weird?
No, you’re not weird for still fancying your husband after he’s gained weight.
In fact, you’re totally normal.
When you love someone, their physical appearance doesn’t matter as much as their personality and who they are on the inside.
Sure, we all like our partners to look good, and there is always the underlying issue of their health.
But if they’ve put on a few extra pounds, it shouldn’t make that much of a difference to how attracted you are to them.
I just hope he realizes how lucky he is to have a wife like you!
Does It Make You Feel More Secure?
The main reason why women like their husbands gaining weight is that it makes them feel more secure.
Not just in the sense that their husbands are bigger and they associate this with being stronger and more protective.
Some women feel more secure that their husbands aren’t going to cheat – as crazy as this sounds.
Again, this comes back to the perfect body image portrayed in the media, we just assume slimmer people are more attractive or have more fun.
I hope this isn’t what you’re feeling, but if it is it’s not that terrible of a thought.
As long as you’re both happy, you shouldn’t think too much about external forces in your marriage.
If your husband is getting fat and you like it, then regardless of the reason, good for you!
It doesn’t matter what other people think, whether it’s positive or negative.
Why Is Your Husband Gaining Weight?
Even though you’re happy with your husband’s weight, it’s still important to understand why he’s gaining weight.
Maybe he’s been feeling down and comfort eating, or perhaps his job is very stressful and he’s not looking after himself as well as he used to.
It could also be that he’s just getting older and his metabolism isn’t what it used to be, we all gain a few lbs as we age!
Either way, when someone starts gaining weight you should check in and make sure they’re in a good place.
You also have to think about their physical health and well-being.
There is a big difference between putting on a little bit of weight and becoming obese.
If your husband is becoming obese he’s putting himself at risk of a number of illnesses, such as type 2 diabetes, heart disease, and a long list of other issues.
Why Are There Such Negative Connotations Around Being Overweight?
It’s really unfair that there are such negative connotations around being overweight.
People come in all shapes and sizes, and we should all be celebrated for who we are – not ashamed because we don’t look a certain way.
Unfortunately, the media doesn’t help matters.
They are always showing us perfect physiques and airbrushing away any imperfections.
It’s no wonder so many people feel bad about themselves!
We need to start promoting body positivity and accepting people for who they are, not what they look like.
You have to keep in mind that what you see on TV or online isn’t an everyday reality.
Having love handles and a little bit spare around the waist is what’s normal, and there is nothing wrong with it if you and your husband are perfectly happy.
Should You Encourage Your Husband to Lose Weight?
It’s really up to you whether or not you encourage your husband to lose weight.
If he’s happy with his size then there is no need to say anything, just carry on loving him for who he is.
However, if you’re concerned about his health then it might be a good idea to have a chat with him and see if he’s open to making some changes.
It’s all about finding a balance – you don’t want to make him feel bad about himself, but you also want him to be healthy and happy.
Only you know your husband and what he would be receptive to, so use your best judgment.
You’re Both Happy and That’s What Matters
In the end, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks – all that matters is that you love your husband and he loves you.
Extra pounds or not, he’s the man you fell in love with and that’s never going to change.
Embrace his new body and enjoy the fact that you’re both happy and in love. That’s what really matters!
We live in an age where most couples break up for one reason or another, and something as superficial as adding a few pounds is a deal-breaker for some.
I respect that you still love your husband, and even more so that you like the fact that he’s gained a little weight!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.