If your son is obsessed with his girlfriend his actions can quickly cross the line from being loved up to derailing his life.
‘Obsessed’ is not a nice word and it can make people do some crazy things.
It’s important you’re able to spot the signs that your son is obsessed with his girlfriend and help get his emotions (and priorities) in order!
Here are 10 reasons why it’s not healthy for your son to be obsessed with his girlfriend and how you can help him develop healthier relationships:
My Daughter Is Obsessed With Her Boyfriend – 10 Reasons Why It’s Bad!
1. She’s Going to Lose Focus on School/Work
The nature of being obsessed with anything means that all other areas of your life are going to suffer.
If your daughter is obsessed with her boyfriend you’ll see her schoolwork, studies, or work start to suffer.
2. It’s Going to Take a Toll on Her Health
Obsessions can lead to stress and anxiety which could have a negative effect on your daughter’s mental and physical health.
It’s incredibly unhealthy to be obsessed with another person, it’s a far cry from being loved up and caring for someone.
3. You’ll See She’s Stressed When They’re Apart
Time apart is healthy in a relationship. That is when both parties are happy and able to be apart without feeling stressed.
If your daughter is obsessing over her boyfriend, when they’re apart she will be stressed, and anxious and may start to act out.
4. It’s Going to Make Her Jealous
A little jealousy is normal in relationships, but obsessing over someone can turn that jealousy into something quite dangerous.
Especially if your daughter sees her boyfriend talking with or spending time with another woman, she may become uncontrollably jealous and do things she’ll regret.
5. It Will Make Her Do Crazy Things
Obsessing over someone can make a person do some crazy things.
They may become aggressive and demanding, or even break the law to get what they want.
It’s important to be aware of these behaviors before it gets out of hand.
6. It Could Be Dangerous If/When the Relationship Ends
If the relationship does end then your daughter is likely to take it very badly and there is a serious risk of her doing something drastic.
This is why it’s important to try and make her see how unhealthy her behaviors are before it gets to this point.
7. Obsession Leads to Possession
Possessiveness is an ugly word in relationships and can lead down a dangerous path.
If your daughter is obsessing over her boyfriend then it’s likely that she’ll become possessive, demanding, and controlling.
This is not healthy for either person in the relationship.
8. Her Boyfriend Is Going to Feel Trapped
I know you have your daughter’s best interests at heart, but you should also take a moment to think about her boyfriend.
It’s pretty miserable for the person on the other side of an obsessive relationship, too.
He might feel trapped, smothered, like he can’t be himself, and unable to escape the relationship.
If he’s feeling this way then it’s likely that their relationship won’t last.
9. It’ll Be Putting an Emotional Toll on Her
Your daughter may not even realize this but it’s likely that she’ll be feeling stressed, anxious and overwhelmed.
It’s important to ensure she’s taking care of her mental health and well-being while you’re helping her through this process.
10. It’s Always Going to End in Disappointment
Something you might need to brace yourself for is the fact that this obsession is going to end in disappointment.
People can’t be obsessed with each other forever and it’s likely that her infatuation will eventually come to an end one way or another.
This can be incredibly hard for your daughter, so it’s important to ensure she has the support network around her to help her through this and the potential fallout.
How Can You Stop Your Daughter from Being Obsessed With Her Boyfriend?
It’s not going to be easy (nothing with our kids are, right?), but there are a few things you can do to help your daughter move past her obsession.
The main thing you need to work on is communication.
Help her open up and talk about how she’s feeling.
Encourage her to take part in activities that make her happy when they’re not together, and don’t forget to be there for her when she does need you.
Finally, offer kind words of advice and remind her that she is good enough, and that she deserves someone who loves her unconditionally and without obsession.
It might be difficult for her to accept, but in the long run it’ll help her find balance and a healthier relationship.
Ultimately, it’s important to be there for your daughter during this time. Obsession is unhealthy and can have serious consequences, so do what you can to help her move past it.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.