It’s a common question; “What does it mean if my boyfriend calls me his baby mama?”
Well, what I can tell you is that it’s certainly a term of endearment in some cultures and means that he sees you as wife and/or mother material!
Some women find being called a baby mama offensive, so if you don’t like it you should make that clear to your guy.
Also, if you’re in a new relationship, it can come across as a bit presumptuous!
My Boyfriend Calls Me His Baby Mama – Is This Normal?
It’s normal for some guys within certain cultures to call their girlfriends their ‘baby mama’, but it’s not a popular saying, to be honest.
If this term is completely new to you and you’re wondering what he means exactly, there are three possible reasons why he’s calling you his baby mama:
- It’s slang and part of the way he talks.
- He’s making it clear he wants children with you.
- It’s his way of saying he’s committed to you.
Let’s take a closer look at these and how you might want to respond:
It’s How He Talks
Some guys use the term ‘baby mama’ as part of their vocabulary and it’s totally normal to them – while it might be totally foreign to you!
If this is how he talks, it’s not going to be the only strange saying he has that you’re going to get used to.
He may be meaning something more than he likes you by saying it, you’re going to have to ask him what exactly he means.
He’s Making It Clear He Wants Children with You
In some cases, a guy might start calling you his baby mama because he’s trying to drop a subtle (or not so subtle) hint that he wants to have children with you.
Of course, this could be a sign that he’s ready to settle down and take the next step in the relationship, but it could also be a sign that he’s not ready and is using this as a way to gauge your reaction.
It’s hard to say for sure without asking, but I know for a fact some guys will say it as a way to test the waters!
It’s His Way of Saying He’s Committed to You
In some cultures, it’s normal for a guy to call his girlfriend his baby mama as a way of saying he’s committed to her and sees her as wife and/or mother material.
If this is the case, then it’s a good thing! He’s showing that he’s serious about you and sees you as being in his future.
Of course, you don’t have to have children with him just because he’s calling you his baby mama, but it is a sign that he’s serious about you.
Is “Baby Mama” a Term of Endearment?
The term “baby mama” can be a term of endearment, but it can also be seen as offensive.
It all depends on the context and how it’s used.
If you’re not sure what your guy means by it, you should ask him!
And, if you don’t like him using it as your pet name, you should also speak up and say something and I’m sure he’ll stop.
It’s certainly a little weirder when you’re not actually the mother of his child, I can see that.
But if he’s saying it now, you can be pretty sure he’s going to be calling you his baby mama if you do have a child together!
It’s certainly a term of endearment then.
Is It a Good Sign that Your Boyfriend Is Committed to You?
Yes, it’s definitely a good sign if your boyfriend is calling you his baby mama!
Even if you don’t like being called his baby mama, it means he sees you as being in his future and is committed to you.
Of course, it’s not the only way to show that he’s committed to you, but it’s a good start!
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What to Do if You Don’t Like Being Called His Baby Mama
If you don’t like being called his baby mama, then you should speak up and tell him!
I’m sure he doesn’t mean to offend you and will stop using the term if you ask him to.
I know it’s not always easy to bring up something like this, especially if he clearly likes calling you this name and it makes him happy.
But you can’t just put up with it in silence, it’s always better that you speak up and let him know if anything is bothering you.
If he doesn’t stop saying it after you’ve asked him to, that’s when you do have a problem.
Your boyfriend needs to be mature enough to accept that you don’t like being called his baby mama and not get offended by it or go against your wishes.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.