I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “If a man wants you, he will make it happen.”
But how true is this?
I don’t want you to think it’s black and white, because it’s really not.
Some guys will chase a girl they like and seize the moment, sure, but many guys are too nervous, anxious, or have another reason why they won’t do anything!
The best you can do is put yourself in a position where you can read the signs if a guy likes you or not!
How Do You Know if A Guy Truly Wants You?
There are a few tell-tale signs that he is interested in you and wants to take the next step.
First, he will make an effort to spend time with you, be around you, and try to get your attention.
He will also make an effort to get to know you on a personal level by asking questions about your life, interests, passions, goals, etc.
This is always a dead giveaway as there is a huge difference between just ‘chatting’ with a friend, and really trying to get to know someone.
Another sign is that a guy might try and make physical contact with you or get close to you, like throwing out a high five or touching you in a playful way.
Ultimately, there are a lot of signs, if you think a guy likes you and pay close attention you’ll see he’s not treating you like someone who is just a casual friend.
This doesn’t mean he’ll act on it and make something happen though, that’s the main thing to remember here.
Not all guys are brave or bold enough to make a move on a girl they like, or if they do it may take weeks, months, or even longer.
What Does It Mean if A Guy Isn’t Chasing You?
If a guy isn’t chasing you, it doesn’t mean he isn’t interested, it just means that he may not be ready to act yet.
It’s possible he’s nervous, anxious, isn’t sure about how you feel, doesn’t want to get rejected; there is a long list of reasons why he might be keeping his distance.
This is why I don’t like the saying, “If a man wants you, he will make it happen” because in many cases, it simply isn’t true.
The best thing to do here is to take your time, read the signs, and see where things are going.
If you think he likes you but isn’t making a move then let him know you’re interested, and see how he reacts.
If it’s meant to be, then eventually something will happen!
Reasons Why Some Men Will Not Make It Happen
To elaborate a little more on why some guys will not “make it happen” when they like a girl, some of the things holding them back might be:
- He might not be confident in his ability to make a good impression on you and thinks he’ll embarrass himself.
- He might be nervous or anxious about being rejected.
- He might not want to risk damaging the friendship or ruining the relationship he has with you if you do not feel the same way.
- He might not know how to approach you or what to say and keeps playing scenarios through his head but can never act on them.
- He might be dealing with other issues or distractions in his life that are preventing him from focusing on the girl.
- He might have some previous trauma from being rejected holding him back from making a move.
The crazy thing is that so many girls are just waiting for a guy to make a move and the guy is waiting for a signal from them!
If a Man Wants You, You Could Make It Happen!
If you know a man likes you (or even if you’re not sure), and you’re done waiting for him to make it happen – you could always be the one to make it happen.
If he’s clearly being held back by one or more of the reasons I touched on above, why not take the lead!
Yes, it can be scary to make the first move and put yourself out there, but sometimes a little courage is all you need.
If talking to him is too much, you could start by flirting with him, making stronger eye contact, or even sending a text message to let him know you’re interested.
If you’re right about him liking you, things are going to escalate pretty quickly once you start helping him along!
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.