If a guy spends hours talking to you, either in person or on the phone, does it mean he likes you?
It probably does, yes.
However, there are a number of other things it could also mean.
If you want to know whether the guy really likes you or not, you’re going to have to look at other body language or behavioral cues.
Here are some common reasons why a guy is spending hours talking to you:
What It Means if A Guy Spends Hours Talking to You
He Likes You And/or Is Attracted to You
One of the more obvious reasons why a guy would spend so much time talking to you is because he likes you and he’s trying to get to know you better.
Talking to a girl for a long time, whether it’s on the phone or in person, is a big deal – so it’s likely he’s interested.
There are some other possible explanations though, as I will be covering in this post. So, I’d look for other cues that he’s attracted to you if you want to be sure.
If you’re talking in person, some of the body language cues that suggest he really likes you are:
- He has strong, consistent eye contact
- He stands or sits close to you
- He points his body towards you
- He mirrors your body language
- He smiles a lot and/or laughs at your jokes (even if they’re not that funny)
If you’re talking on the phone, see where he takes the conversation. If he’s more interested in talking about you than himself, that’s a great sign.
It’s also a good sign if he’s suggesting meeting up, being flirty, joking a lot, and complimenting you.
He Finds You Fascinating or Intriguing
Sometimes, it’s possible that a guy will talk to you for hours simply because he finds you so fascinating.
This is especially common if you have an interesting hobby, job, or passion and it’s something he’s interested in.
For example, I recently talked to a girl for hours because she is a professional career coach.
It was super interesting to me as she was telling me all kinds of stories about how she’s helped people go from the bottom of the professional ladder to achieving their dream jobs.
It’s certainly something to take as a compliment if you think this is why a guy is talking to you for hours!
He Considers You a Good Friend
It’s also possible that a guy spends hours talking to you because he considers you a good friend.
This is most likely the case if you’ve already been friends for a while or if he’s talked about being in the “friend zone” with you before.
In this case, it’s not necessarily a bad thing – although it might not be what you’re looking for.
If you want to take things to the next level with him, try flirting with him or taking this opportunity to ask him about his love life and what he’s looking for in a partner!
He’s in Need of Someone to Confide/talk To
It’s also possible that a guy spends hours talking to you because he needs someone to confide in or talk to.
This could be for a number of reasons – maybe he’s going through a tough time in his life, or perhaps he doesn’t have anyone else to talk to.
If this is the case, if you value him as a friend it’s important to be a good listener and to be there for him.
However, you shouldn’t feel like you have to be his therapist or that you need to fix his problems if it’s taking up too much time or putting an emotional toll on you.
If he’s looking for someone to confide in, there are other ways he can do that – such as seeing a therapist or talking to a hotline.
He’s Just a Really Chatty Person
You can’t rule out that he might just be a really chatty person.
Some people are naturally more talkative than others and they can spend hours talking to anyone they’re around – whether it’s a friend, family member, or even a stranger.
In this case, it might not have anything to do with you as a person specifically.
If you don’t want to talk for hours, you can try steering the conversation towards other topics or telling him that you need to go.
He Just Loves Your Company
Last but not least, it’s possible that he just loves your company and enjoys spending time with you – whether it’s on the phone or in person.
If this is the case, you’ll likely see other signs that he’s interested – although not romantically – like wanting to spend more time with you in a casual way.
This is a really sweet reason why a guy would spend so long chatting. If you enjoy his company, it’s a win-win.
Should You Spend Hours Talking to A Guy?
If you’re wondering whether you should spend hours talking to a guy, it ultimately depends on what you want and what your goals are.
There’s no right or wrong answer, but if you’re looking for a relationship it’s actually not the best idea to spend so much time talking to someone before even going on a date.
Unless you can’t physically meet in person, you should always try and meet up and not spend hours on the phone.
Even if you are together in person, it’s not the best idea to spend hours talking – no matter how exciting it is for the two of you to get to know each other.
It almost sets an expectation and a bad habit that you can’t keep up with, and you run the risk of getting bored of each other!
There is truth in the old adage of ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’, time apart is healthy for a relationship.
But at the end of the day, you need to go with what feels right in both your heart and your head!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.