If you like – or are dating – someone in a wheelchair, I’m sure you’re aware of how, if anything, it affects how you interact with them.
Everyone is different when it comes to how they want to be treated, and you have to respect that.
But if you’re not sure about how to lean in and give someone in a wheelchair a kiss, it’s really not as big of a deal as I bet you’re thinking it is.
Here are some tips on how to kiss someone in a wheelchair so it’s not a big deal!
How to Kiss Someone in A Wheelchair – Things to Keep in Mind!
They Probably Don’t Want to Be Treated Any Differently
I don’t know the person, but I’m willing to bet that they don’t want to be treated any differently from an able-bodied person.
Sure, they’re in a wheelchair and you’re going to have to lean in, but unless there is any reason why anything else is different – treat kissing them like you would anyone.
If It’s Awkward for You, Don’t Make a Big Deal About It
Giving anyone a kiss for the first time is usually a little awkward, or very awkward in some cases!
If you’re thinking about the fact that they’re in a wheelchair and it’s going to make it even more awkward, you’re just going to get worked up.
Whatever happens, your job is to act cool and not make a big deal about it, whatever happens!
Just Lean in And Kiss Them!
The best way to kiss someone in a wheelchair is just to lean in and do it.
I know that might sound easier said than done, but if you try to overthink it or make a big deal about it, that’s when things will go wrong.
I get that you’re nervous, but you’re probably stressing or thinking about things that just don’t matter.
What matters is that you know there is a romantic connection between the two of you, and you’re getting the courage together to make the first move!
Pay Attention to How They React
After you’ve gone in for the kiss, pay attention to how they react.
If they seem uncomfortable or like they want to pull away, then maybe it’s not the right time yet.
Keep in mind that depending on their disability and mobility, they might not be able to move away as quickly as someone standing eye-to-eye with you.
But if they respond positively and lean in for more, then you know you’re on the right track!
It’s the same as kissing anyone, you need to live in the moment and see what happens!
Make Sure You Don’t Push Them Away!
Another thing that can happen with someone in a wheelchair that doesn’t happen when standing is that you might push them away – literally!
If this does happen, it’s more likely to make the both of you laugh and it’ll be something you talk about, but it’s also best avoided if possible.
You could ask them to make sure they have the brakes on, how’s that for a line to lead into a kiss?
Or, just don’t put much pressure on. As long as it’s something you’re mindful of, you can avoid it.
How to Deal with Those First Kiss Nerves?
If you’re nervous about how to kiss someone in a wheelchair, try to remember that it’s not that different from kissing anyone else.
The main thing is just to be respectful of their wishes and take things at their pace.
It’s the fact that you’re building up to kiss someone that you’re nervous about.
I think it’s fair to say that everyone gets nervous when they’re thinking about kissing someone.
From worrying about how it’s going to go, if the other person will be receptive, to those butterflies because you’re feeling excited – it’s a big deal!
The best thing you can do is to take a moment to collect your thoughts, take some deep breaths, and give yourself a little pep talk!
What to Say After Kissing Someone for The First Time?
After you’ve kissed someone in a wheelchair for the first time, there’s not much different you need to say then if it were anyone else.
The best advice is to say whatever comes to your mind at that moment. Something like:
“That was nice, I really like kissing you.”
“I’m glad we finally did that, I’ve wanted to kiss you for a while now.”
“Can we do that again?”
Just be genuine, honest, and respectful and you’ll be fine!
The key takeaway is that kissing someone in a wheelchair is not that different from kissing anyone else – apart from leaning in.
Just remember to be respectful of their wishes and take things at their pace.
And if you’re feeling nervous, just take a moment to collect your thoughts and give yourself a little pep talk.
Think about the risk and reward, would you be able to live with yourself knowing that you didn’t kiss someone you had feelings for just because you were nervous?
Image credits – Photo by Elevate on Unsplash
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.