You’re a high-value woman, I’m sure, and there is no better time to prove that than when a man pulls away.
It’s difficult to see at the time, but if a guy pulls away from you the best way to get him back (if you want that) is to not chase him and show him you’re high value.
By maintaining your integrity, he’ll either come crawling back and realize he’s lost out on someone special!
Here are 10 tips on how to be high value when he pulls away from you:
How to Be High Value when He Pulls Away – 10 Things You Should Do
1. Don’t Chase Him or Play His Games
This is probably the most important thing of all, you should never chase a guy when he pulls away or get involved in his mind games at all.
Being high value means you’re above that and you don’t need to stoop to his level to begging, chasing, or asking for him to come back.
If a guy is playing games or is being distant, the best way to handle it is to just be busy yourself and let him come to you when he’s ready.
You shouldn’t have to put your life on hold just because a guy is being difficult, no matter how much you like him.
You need to value yourself more than that, and if he values you the same he’ll soon apologize and come running back to you.
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2. Take a Step Back from Him and Take a Look at Why He’s Pulling Away
The next step is to figure out why a guy is pulling away from you.
Guys can be complex creatures at times and there are a number of reasons why he might be pulling away, but the more you know about his reasoning the better.
There could be something going on in his life that’s taking up all his time and energy, or he might just need some space to sort out his feelings.
You may even have to talk to him to figure it out, so try not to overthink things too much or spend too much time on it.
But if you can figure out why he’s pulling away, you’ll be better placed to know how to handle the situation.
3. Remind Yourself Why You’re High Value and Deserve Better
If a guy is pulling away it can be easy to start doubting yourself, but you need to remember that you’re high value and deserve better than that.
You need to remember all the great things about yourself and why he was attracted to you in the first place.
It’s also important to remember that not every guy is the same, and just because he’s pulling away doesn’t mean all guys will do or that it’s any reflection on you.
He may come back soon and apologize, but in the meantime, it’s important you hold your head high and remind yourself that you deserve to be treated better.
4. Give Him a Reasonable Amount of Time to Contact You
Once you’ve taken a step back from him and figured out his reasoning, it’s time to give him a reasonable amount of time to contact you.
Exactly how long is hard to judge because you don’t want to seem desperate or like you’re chasing him, but you also don’t want to wait too long.
He might be going through some tough personal issues and need a long break or some support to get through those issues.
So, give him a reasonable amount of time that you’re comfortable with, and then don’t be too proud to reach out and check that he’s OK.
5. Make It Clear You’re Not Going to Wait Forever
Whether you reach out to him or not, you should also make it clear that you’re not going to wait around indefinitely for him to sort out his issues.
You’re a high-value woman and deserve to be with someone who will treat you as such.
If he’s taking too long to get back to you or make an effort, then it might be time to move on and find someone who will appreciate you more.
You don’t want to waste your time on someone who’s not ready to give you the commitment you deserve, so make sure you communicate that to him.
6. Start Seeing Other Guys if He’s Not Contacted You
One of the most obvious signs you can send a guy who has pulled away that you are a high-value woman is to move on.
The best way to do that is to start seeing other guys, even if you’re not really interested in finding something serious.
This will show him that you’re not going to wait around forever and that you’re perfectly capable of moving on without him.
It might even make him realize what he’s missing out on and make him come running back to you.
7. Focus on Self-Care and Don’t dwell on What Happened
Part of being a high-value woman and knowing your worth is taking the time to focus on self-care and not dwell too much on situations like this.
Yes, it might hurt when a guy pulls away, but that doesn’t mean you should spend all your time and energy obsessing over it.
Try to distract yourself with other things in your life and take some time for yourself.
Spend time with friends, family, or doing things you love, and don’t let what he did ruin your happiness.
Remember that you’re in control of your own life and you deserve to be happy. A big part of this is knowing you’re a high-value woman.
8. Don’t Hold a Grudge if He’s Hurt You
If a guy has hurt you by pulling away, it can be tempting to hold a grudge against him and never forgive him.
However, that’s not going to do you any good in the long run and it’s not how someone who has a high-value opinion of themselves would act.
It’s important to be able to forgive people, even if they don’t deserve it, and move on with your life.
Holding a grudge will only make you bitter and resentful, and it will ultimately have a negative impact on your mental and physical health.
9. Lean on Your Friends if Needed
You can still demonstrate you’re a high-value woman if you feel the need to lean on your support network for support.
Your friends and family will be more than happy to help you through a tough time like this, so don’t be afraid to ask for help.
It’s OK to need a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk to, and it doesn’t make you any less strong.
In fact, it shows you’re smart enough to know when you need help and that you’re not afraid to ask for it.
10. Use This Experience to Make Raise Your Self-Esteem Further
Finally, one of the best things you can do after a guy pulls away is to use the experience to make your self-esteem even higher.
It can be easy to doubt yourself and your worth after something like this happens, but you have to remember that you’re still an amazing person.
Use this as an opportunity to work on your confidence and remind yourself of all the reasons you’re awesome.
I know how tough it can be to stand strong and risk losing a guy because you’re not willing to chase him when he pulls away.
But it’s crucial that you maintain your worth and don’t lower yourself to playing his games.
He’s either going to figure out what’s going on with himself and come back to you, or you’re better off for not chasing him!
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What Is a High-Value Woman?
A high-value woman is confident, independent, and knows her worth.
She’s not afraid to stand up for herself or walk away from a situation that isn’t beneficial to her.
A high-value woman knows how to be high value when a guy pulls away by maintaining her dignity and not chasing after him.
By understanding your value and being willing to demonstrate it in this way, you’re going to attract better people into your life who treat you better.
Why Do Guys Pull Away?
There can be a lot of reasons why a guy might pull away, but it usually comes down to one (or more) of the following:
- He’s afraid of commitment
- He’s not over his ex and struggling with his feelings
- He’s feeling overwhelmed by the situation
- He’s going through a tough time personally and doesn’t know what else to do
- He’s not sure what he wants from you, the relationship, or even his life
- He’s testing you to see how you react as a way of exerting control over you
These are just some of the reasons why a guy might pull away, but it’s important to remember that you’re not responsible for his actions.
You can’t make him do anything, and you can’t control how he feels.
The only thing you can do is focus on yourself and your own happiness.
This is how to be high value when he pulls away and to make sure you’re attracting the right kind of people and the right energy into your life.
Image credits – Photo by Meritt Thomas on Unsplash
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.