If he didn’t text me today, should I text him?
This is something most girls stress over at some point when texting a guy they like, so you’re not alone.
While there isn’t one answer that suits all situations, I can tell you that it’s probably nothing to worry about and you could send up a text, yes.
To help put your mind at ease, here are some of the reasons why he might not have texted you and why it’s OK for you to text him first:
He Didn’t Text Me Today, Should I Text Him?
If a guy you like hasn’t texted you all day, don’t stress!
A day might feel like a lifetime to you when you’re hanging around waiting for him to text, but it’s really not that long.
I know it’s hard, but try not to overthink it!
If you like him and he likes you, then he’ll text you when he can.
Or, there may be a perfectly innocent reason why he hasn’t texted you, such as the following reasons:
5 Reasons Why He Might Not Have Text You – But Still Really Likes You
1. He’s Anxious About What to Say
Take a moment to think about what’s going through his head.
He might be anxious about what to say or how you’ll react to his text and is stressing over how to word what he wants to say.
Sometimes it’s hard to start a conversation, especially when you like someone and don’t want to say something stupid.
If he responds quickly when you text him, this is likely the reason why he didn’t text first.
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2. He Doesn’t Want to Come Across as Clingy
He might be worried about seeming clingy or needy if he texts you first, so he’s holding back a little bit.
This is especially true if he’s just getting to know you or if you’re in the early stages of dating.
It can be a turnoff for some guys if they feel like they’re the only one texting or that they have to initiate all the conversations.
This doesn’t mean he’s not interested, he just doesn’t want to seem like he’s too into you.
3. He Knows You’re Going to Text Him Anyway
If he’s confident that you’re going to text him before long, he probably doesn’t feel the need to text first.
This isn’t something to feel bad about, it’s a good sign!
As long as you’re OK with taking the lead most of the time, there’s no harm in letting him off the hook and taking charge of the conversation yourself.
4. He’s Just Not Good at Texting
Even in this day and age, some guys (and girls) are not great at texting and it’s something they feel self-conscious about.
This is especially true if you’re a savvy texter and use all kinds of memes, emojis, and stuff like that.
It’s possible he prefers to see you in person or even talk on the phone, it’s worth exploring.
5. He’s Been Genuinely Busy
If a guy hasn’t texted you today, you can never rule out that he’s simply busy!
I know it only takes a minute to send a quick text, but if he’s feeling overwhelmed with work or other things in his life, he might not have had time to text you.
And that’s OK!
There is no harm in sending him a text and asking what he’s been up to and seeing what he says.
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Why It’s OK for You to Text Him First
No matter how anxious you’re feeling, I want to reinforce that it’s fine for you to text a guy if he hasn’t text you today or within a day or two even.
There could be any number of reasons, and if he’s into you he’s going to love hearing from you.
If you want to text him, go ahead!
I know it can feel like a lot of pressure when it comes to texting guys, but if you go with your gut and trust your instincts, you’ll be fine.
Look at it this way, what’s the worst that can happen?
The way I see it is that texting a guy you like is always a win-win.
If he doesn’t want to talk right now, he won’t. If he does, then he’s going to text you back.
And like I said, even if you’re used to him texting you every day, a day is not a long time not to hear from him.
Can a Man Really Be Interested and Not Text You?
Of course, a guy can be into you and not text you first or for a day or so, absolutely!
I know it feels like torture when you’re waiting for a guy to text, but try not to overthink it too much.
There could be a lot of reasons why he hasn’t text, as I listed above.
And if you want to text him, you can always go ahead and do that.
The bottom line is that if you’re wondering “should I text him?”, the answer is usually yes!
Text him, and then move on and keep yourself busy so you’re no longer dwelling over whether he’s going to reply or what he’s going to say.
Until that is, you hear your phone pinging or buzzing, then you’ll have your answer!
Read Between the Lines to Find Out If He Likes You
If you’re still stressing over whether or not a guy you’re texting likes you, there will always be signs to look out for.
Some of the classic signs a guy likes you even though he doesn’t initiate text messages are:
- He’s always quick to respond to your text messages
- There is a flirty tone to his messages
- He asks you a lot of questions about the things you like, what you’re into, etc
- He talks about things he’d like to do with you
- He shares personal details and stories with you about himself
- He texts you at odd times like late at night
These are just a few signs, but at the end of the day, I bet you can just tell by the way he talks to you if he likes you.
If you’re unsure, you could always ask your friends what they think, too.
But the best way to find out for sure is to ask him out on a date!
I know it’s scary, but if you want to know for sure, it’s the only way.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.