“I’d love to get to know you better, describe yourself to me in three words….”
If you’ve been put on the spot and asked to describe yourself in 3 words on a date – you have to choose each word very carefully.
Saying the right words are going to be make or break for your date.
So, rehearsing this is nothing to feel bad about. You could even ask this question of your date first, ready to reply with your answer.
Obviously, you do what to be as honest as you can. But you also want to say the right words in the moment.
In this article, I’m going to list the best words for both guys and girls to use when describing themselves to a date, in a job interview, to friends, and in other situations.
What Are 3 Good Words to Describe Yourself?
It’s hard to describe ourselves in a dozen words, trying to trim it down to just three words is almost impossible.
That’s why people ask this question, it’s challenging and is intended to make us settle on the three most important words to us.
Ideally, you want to choose words that describe who you are as a person, your goals and ambitions, your personality, and how you treat others.
I can’t tell you which words best describe you, but I can certainly help by giving you a list of powerful words that are known to work when used in dating profiles.
Men and women look for different qualities in a partner, so it’s no surprise that guys and girls use different words.
Here’s a list of the top words to use to describe yourself as either a guy or a girl:
Related – Funny responses to use when asked on a date!
How to Describe Yourself in 3 Words to a Girl
Here are some of the best words for guys to use when describing themselves to a girl:
Independent
No woman wants to be with a guy who still lives with his parents and relies on his mom to wash his clothes and clean up after him.
You want to make it clear to prospective partners that you can take care of yourself, and you’ll be able to take good care of them, too.
Active
You don’t have to be a gym rat, but you should make it clear that you’re a “get-up-and-go” type of person.
When someone is proud to take care of themselves and be active, it shows they can take care of someone else and be active with them.
Positive
Being optimistic, cheerful, positive, productive, etc., is one of life’s best qualities and will make good things happen for you (especially when dating).
A famous quote comes to mind; “A positive mindset brings positive things.” I’ve always found this to be true.
Affectionate
Let’s be honest, we all want affection from a loving partner. You may feel vulnerable saying it, but if you are an affectionate person, it needs to be said.
This word is definitely going to make a girl smile and feel good inside. Just make sure you can show it when the time comes.
Confident
Women like confident men. Confidence is a sign of strength, reliability, ambition, drive, and a number of other positive verbs.
You may ooze confidence, but saying it really puts a stamp on the fact that you know you’re confident, and you’re proud of it.
Spontaneous
Most people dream about being spontaneous and wish they were, but few actually are without someone to be spontaneous with them.
Using spontaneous as one of your three words to describe yourself might hit that spot with someone who feels the same, and who knows what’ll happen!
Funny
We all like a good laugh, and numerous studies have shown that women are more likely to be attracted to men with a good sense of humor.
Just make sure that you really do have a good sense of humor that aligns with her personality, the last thing you want is to offend her.
Creative
Saying you are creative is a great ice breaker. It could mean you’re an artist, musician, a daydreamer, a number of things.
If you choose ‘creative’ as one of your words, what it does say about you is that you want people to know that you’re a dreamer, have a good imagination, and are full of ideas.
How to Describe Yourself in 3 Words to a Guy
Here are some of the best words for girls to use when describing themselves to a guy:
Funny
Guys want to laugh as much as girls do. If you and your date both say you’re funny, you know it’s going to be a bunch of laughs meeting them.
If you don’t feel confident saying you’re funny, you could put ‘cheerful’, ‘playful’, or ‘witty’.
Thoughtful
Saying you’re thoughtful lets someone know that you’re kind, respectful, and someone who takes notice of the small things.
Everyone wants their partner – or even their friends – to be thoughtful, it’s one of the most endearing qualities someone can have.
Outgoing
If you’re an outgoing person, meaning you’re friendly and socially confident, make sure you state this with one of your three words.
Not everyone wants their date to be outgoing, so it’s best you make it clear if you are. That way you can avoid the introverts who wouldn’t be a good match for you.
Ambitious
Being ambitious means you have a strong desire to succeed and make good things happen – and this is a huge plus.
On the flip side, lack of ambition is a huge turn-off. It’s also contagious, if you have a partner aching ambition they will drag you down.
Loyal
Using the word ‘loyal’ lets a guy know that you’re going to be faithful and reliable, without explicitly saying it.
Forbes lists this as one of the second most important traits that men look for in a partner.
Caring
Caring is also a quality that’s important to most men. They want to know that their woman is going to care for them, as well as displaying concern for others.
If you believe this is one of your top qualities, don’t be afraid to list it as one of the few words describing yourself.
Open-minded
Saying you’re open-minded can be a little ambiguous, but all of the possible connotations are positive and sure to attract others.
It’s a great opener to talk about new ideas, what you do and don’t like, the things you’re willing to do, and so on.
Unique
We’re all unique, right? No matter what you think of yourself, you are you and no one else is as special as you are.
We should all be proud to be unique. If someone asks you what’s unique about you, tell them it’s because you’re ‘you’, and they need to find out.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.