What to Text Someone Before a Funeral (Examples/Condolences)

Thinking about what to text someone before a funeral?

Saying the right thing to someone who is about to attend a funeral can go a long way to making them feel better and know you’re there for them.

Here are some examples of what to text someone before they attend a funeral:

What to Text Someone Before a Funeral You’re Also Attending

If you’re also attending the funeral, you can let the person know that you’re going to be right there with them throughout.

Some of the things you can text to someone before the service starts are:

• I know today is going to be hard, just remember that I’ll be right there with you the whole time.
• Today is going to be difficult, but let’s keep in mind that we’re celebrating a wonderful person and saying our final goodbye.
• It’s a privilege to be at [name’s] service, I’m looking forward to celebrating his life with you and their family.
• I just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you today, I’ll see you later.
• Sending love and prayers to you and your family today, I’m sure it’s going to all go as planned.
• Today is going to be tough, but it’s a wonderful thing that we get to celebrate [name’s] life like this.
• [name] touched a lot of people, today is going to be something. Don’t hesitate to talk to me if you need anything.
• If it gets a bit tough today all you have to do is look around at me, OK, I’m going to be there for you.
• You’re in my thoughts and prayers today, I’ll find you after the service for a chat.
• Why don’t you come over to mine after the funeral today? I’d love to share some of my personal memories of [name].”

Related – Here are examples of what to text someone after a funeral.

What to Text Someone Before a Funeral You’re Not Attending

If you’re not going to be attending the funeral, it’s important you let this person know you’ll be thinking of them throughout the day.

Some text messages you can send are:

• I will be thinking of you today.
• My deepest sympathies, my friend. I hope the service goes well and may you find comfort and peace during this difficult time.
• I’ll be thinking of you during the service, please don’t forget that I’m here for you any time of day or night.
• I can’t imagine how you must be feeling right now. If you need anything please let me know.
• I’ve been where you are and experienced what you’re going through, I know how hard it is. I’m here if you need me.
• Just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you during these difficult times, I am praying for you, and grieving with you.
• Today is going to be tough, but it’s wonderful that you get to celebrate [name’s] life and I’m sure the service will do him proud.
• You’re in my thoughts and prayers today, I’m available to meet up any time you’re free, just ask.

How Do You Wish a Funeral Goes Well?

It feels awkward to tell someone you hope a funeral goes well, but it’s natural to feel like this and want to say something along those lines.

Instead of saying, “I hope the funeral goes well”, some of the other ways you can word this are:

• How was the service, I trust it went well?
• I’m sorry for your loss, I was thinking of you today during the service.
• Please accept my sincere condolences, I’m sorry I couldn’t make it to the funeral.
• I hope they were given a good send-off.
• I hope the service brought you some comfort, I bet [name] would have been proud.
• I hope the funeral went as smoothly as it could have and [name] had a service he deserved.

Should You Text Someone After a Funeral as Well?

It’s always a good idea to follow up with someone after a funeral, especially if you weren’t able to attend.

This shows that you care and that you were thinking of them during and after the service, even though you were not there in person.

A few text messages you can send after the funeral are:

• I’m so sorry I couldn’t be there today, how are you doing?
• I’ve been thinking of you since the funeral, how are you holding up?
• I wish I could have been there with you, please tell me how it was.
• I can only imagine how tough today was, if there’s anything I can do to help, please let me know.
• I’m here for you if you need to talk or just want some company, I’ll come over whenever you’re ready.
• I know today was tough, but I’m proud of how you handled everything. If you need to talk about it I’m here.
• I hope you’re taking some time for yourself to grieve and heal, if you need anything please let me know.

Related – Here are things you can say to someone who is attending a funeral.

The Most Important Thing Is That You Say Something and Are Sincere

I know how stressful it is thinking about what you’re going to text someone before a funeral, but you can’t run from it.

It doesn’t matter so much what you say, as long as you are sincere and genuine in your words.

The most important thing is that you reach out and let this person know that you care and are there for them, no matter what.

I hope this gives you some ideas of what to text someone before a funeral. Just remember to be sincere, genuine, and honest in your words and you’ll do fine.

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