Thinking about what to text someone after a funeral?
Picking the right words is incredibly important when someone is grieving, and I understand how difficult it is.
To help you out, I’ve listed a number of things you can text someone after a funeral to let them know you’re there for them and offer your condolences.
What to Text Someone After a Funeral You Also Attended
The difference between attending the funeral and not is that if you attended the funeral you can reference it in your text.
Some of the things you can text someone after the funeral to pass on your condolences and let them know you’re there for them are:
- What a lovely funeral, I know [name] would have been so proud of the service and the turnout. I’m honored to have attended.
- What a special funeral service, I can only imagine how you’re feeling right now – if you need anything please don’t hesitate to ask me.
- That was a beautiful service earlier. My thoughts are with you, let me know if I can do anything.
- I was thinking of you during the service, I hope you’re doing well. I’m here for you if you need someone to talk to.
- I’m going past your house later, are you in? Want me to drop by with anything?
- What a beautiful service, it did [name] and his memory proud. My thoughts are with you.
- I’m so happy I was able to attend [name’s] service, it felt so good hearing about his wonderful life and achievements.
- It was a privilege to attend [name’s] funeral today, I couldn’t imagine a better service.
- What a joy it was to celebrate [name’s] life and what a beautiful service. Our thoughts are with you.
- It was so nice to see everyone today and to attend [name’s] service. I still can’t believe it’s real, if you need to talk you know where I am.
What to Text Someone After a Funeral You Didn’t Attend
If you didn’t attend the funeral, whether you were invited or not, here are some things you can text:
- My deepest sympathies, my friend. I hope the service went well and may you find comfort and peace during this difficult time.
- I was thinking of you earlier during the service, please don’t forget that I’m here for you any time of day or night.
- I know today is going to be incredibly difficult, if you need anything please don’t hesitate to reach out to me.
- I’m sorry for your loss. I know how much you’re missing [name], please accept my sincerest sympathy.
- Just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you during these difficult times, I am praying for you, and grieving with you.
- Although we’re so far apart, I’m here for you in spirit and was thinking of you and [name] earlier.
- I’ve been where you are and experienced what you’re going through, I know how hard it is. I’m here if you need me.
- I can’t imagine how you must be feeling right now. If you need anything please let me know.
- I know today will be hard on you, I wanted to just let you know that I’m here for you. Would love to catch up in person soon, let me know when you’re free.
What to Text Someone After a Funeral Who You Know Is Struggling
If you know this person is really struggling with their guilt, I’m sure they’d love to hear from you.
Some of the things you could text them to show your support are:
- Is there anything I can do to help right now? Anything at all?
- I’m so profoundly sad about your loss. Happy to help in any way possible, you just have to ask.
- Don’t worry about responding, I just wanted to let you know I’m sorry and I’m here for you.
- [name] was a fantastic person, and everyone will miss them.
- I’d love to drop by and catch up with you in person if you’re free any time this week?
- I can’t make it any less painful, but I can offer you a listening ear, some lunch, or a big hug at any time you want.
- Hey, friend, just reaching out to ask how you are and let you know I’m here for you.
- Don’t ever feel like you need to go through this alone, I’m always only a text or phone call away.
Tips when Texting Someone After a Funeral
Texting is a great way to reach out to someone quickly, but it’s not as personal as speaking with them in person.
Some tips and things to keep in mind when texting someone after a funeral or some other sensitive events are:
Keep It Short and To the Point
If you can, try to keep your message short and to the point. The last thing someone who is grieving wants is a long message they have to read.
It’s about the message and sending something directly to the recipient, this isn’t a time to discuss general things at the same time.
Choose Your Words Carefully
Your words carry a lot of weight, so try to be as careful and considerate as possible with the words you choose.
This is the best thing about sending a text, you get time to think about what you’re going to say so there are no excuses for saying something you shouldn’t.
It’s going to mean more to the person if you say something personal, rather than just copying and pasting a generic message or using a cliche.
A few words that come from the heart will go a lot further and it’s going to leave a lasting impression on them at a time when they have a lot on their minds.
Give Them Plenty of Time to Get Back to You
Don’t expect an immediate response and don’t get upset if they don’t reply right away – or at all.
They might not be in the frame of mind to reply and that’s okay, just let them know you’re there when they’re ready.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.