Want to know what to say to a judgemental person to put them in their place?
No one likes being judged, and it’s hard to get through to people who like to judge others as they tend to think they’re better than everyone else.
We both know they’re not though, and the best thing you can do is give them a comeback that’ll make them back off.
In this post I’ve going to explain why some people are so judgemental, how to handle them, and give you some comebacks and responses to own them:
What to Say to a Judgemental Person – Witty Comebacks and Burns
- “It’s funny how you judge others when you’re so imperfect yourself!”
- “You know, when you criticize someone, you are simply revealing an inability to accept the truth about yourself.”
- “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you – it’s so simple!”
- “If everyone thought like you, society would be in a bad place!”
- “Perhaps you should take a look in the mirror before judging someone else!”
- “Why do people who know the least about me always have the most to say?”
- “Before you judge my life, I suggest you take a good look at your own.”
- “Do you really think it’s your place to judge me?”
- “It’s lucky I don’t value your opinion, otherwise I might make some bad decisions.”
- “Thanks, I’ll keep that in mind.”
- “Oh, and you’re so perfect, right?”
- “I’ve never said I’m perfect, awesome, yes, but not perfect.”
- “Do you want to be a judge when you grow up or something?”
- “Your negativity is really bringing the vibe down around here.”
- “You’ll learn nothing from life if you always assume you know better than others.”
- “I think everyone is entitled to their opinion, it just sucks that yours is always so bad.”
- “It’s okay for you to disagree with me, but you come across as so judgemental that it’s hard to take you seriously.”
- “Why don’t you focus on your own life instead of judging mine?”
- “Maybe if you focused on yourself, you wouldn’t have the time to judge others.”
- “Judging someone’s life is like judging a book by its cover – you don’t know the full story until you read it.”
- “Keep judging and I’ll keep living my life, thanks.”
- “It looks like your opinion matters more to you than it does to me.”
Why Are Some People so Judgemental?
The main reason most people are judgemental is because they have low self-esteem or a low opinion of themselves.
They think that by judging someone, they can make themselves feel better.
Another reason and this is usually more true with family members is that they are trying to make others conform to their standards and values, which they think is the right thing to do.
If someone tells you they have your best interests at heart or that they love and care about you, which is why they’re judging your decisions or your life, don’t let this fool you – it’s still judgment.
It doesn’t matter how it makes the person judging you feel, what matters is how it makes you feel.
How Do You Stop a Judgemental Attitude?
It’s hard to stop a judgemental attitude and make someone see reason, but it’s not impossible.
The best thing to do is try and get the person to see that their opinion isn’t always correct and that they shouldn’t judge everyone.
Remind them that their opinion isn’t the only one and it’s not always going to help someone to hear what they think.
You could try and give them a dose of their own medicine and judge them back, but this might end up in an argument or create an ongoing conflict.
The best thing is to simply let them know exactly how their judgemental comments make you feel and appeal to their sensitive side!
Some Tips for Dealing with Judgemental People
If you’re struggling to deal with someone who keeps making judgemental comments, I have some tips for you:
Don’t Take It Personally
Even though their comments are personal, it’s just someone expressing their opinion and is not necessarily a reflection of you.
They’re probably projecting their own insecurities more so than actually offering skilled or professional advice.
Look at Things from Their Perspective
When someone is frustrating or annoying you, it always helps to try and see things from their perspective.
When family members are judgemental they’re often coming from a place of love, even if it’s misguided.
Remember that everyone has different opinions, values, and beliefs.
Be compassionate to those who are judgemental, as they might be going through some difficult times themselves.
Don’t Try to Offend Them
When someone is being judgemental, it’s important to keep your cool and not try to offend them as a defensive response.
It won’t help the situation and will end up just making things worse.
Don’t Let It Get You Down!
Most importantly, don’t let the judgemental comments of others get you down.
You are in charge of your own life and decisions, so try your best to stay positive and confident in what you believe in.
No one else can dictate how you live your life, so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.