There’s no doubt that being in a long-distance relationship is challenging.
It’s no surprise that around just 50% of long-distance relationships last.
However, whether you’re 10 miles apart or 1,000 miles, with commitment and understanding, you can make it work.
Here are 10 of the things what guys want in a long-distance relationship to make it work:
10 Things What Guys Want in a Long Distance Relationship
1. Reassurance that You Love Them
Being reassured that you love him would be important if he was with you in person, but it’s even more important when a guy is in a long-distance relationship.
Without that physical connection, it can be easy for him to doubt your feelings and start to feel insecure.
So, make sure you tell him every day how much you love him and why you’re grateful to be with him.
2. Good Communication
Communication is everything in a long-distance relationship.
In fact, most of the main reasons long-distance couples split revolve around a lack of communication.
If he’s not sure where you’re at and who you’re hanging around with or is doubting how you feel about him, these doubts are only going to grow and worsen over time.
Yet, his mind could be put at ease by simply telling him what you’re up to and sharing your thoughts and feelings with him honestly and openly.
It might feel demanding at times, but it only takes a few seconds to send a text message and it helps bridge that gap for him being so far away.
3. To See You via Video Calls
Video calls are a must in a long-distance relationship.
While it’s not the same as being with each other in person, it’s the next best thing.
It helps you feel connected to each other and gives him a chance to see your beautiful face.
It’s super easy with modern cell phones and laptops, so there is really no excuse.
It can also be fun to stream when you’re walking, when you’re out running errands, or just watching you doing stuff around the home.
The more time he spends actually seeing you in person, the closer he’s going to feel to you – and you to him!
4. To Know That You Trust Them
Trust is very important in a long-distance relationship and is something that has to go both ways.
You need to trust him and he needs to trust you.
If there are any doubts about what the other is doing, the distance between you it’s only going to magnify those feelings.
So, it’s important you trust him. If you feel like you can’t trust him, talk to him about your feelings and I’m sure he’ll be able to reassure you.
5. To Be Surprised from Time to Time
Another thing that guys – and girls – like when they’re apart from their loved ones is to be surprised now and then (in a good way!).
It doesn’t have to be anything huge, but something that lets him know you’re thinking about him.
Perhaps you could send him a care package with some of his favorite things, or tickets to a show he’s been wanting to see when you’re finally able to be in the same place.
It’s not what you do, it’s all about doing something he didn’t expect that shows him you’re thinking about him.
6. To Know When He’s Next Going to See You
When you’re apart from someone you love, the tension and anxiety to next see them grows over time.
One of the best things you can both do is set a date or dates when you will be seeing each other so you have something on your calendar to look forward to.
7. For You to Make Effort for Him
It’s easy to make less effort when you’re not going to see someone in person.
This might mean not putting on makeup or getting your hair done as often, or just not making the effort to call him as often.
Whatever it is, if you start letting bad habits slip in or find yourself not making as much effort as you used to, it’s only going to make your guy think you’re not as interested.
To be honest, some women say that they have to make even more effort than they would if they were seeing their man in person to compensate for the distance.
8. To Hear You Say the Special Things You’re Thinking
It’s strange, but most long-distance couples find it more difficult to be open about how they’re feeling and intimate over the phone or video call.
I do get it, it feels very different talking to a phone or camera than it does in person.
You can’t replace that feeling you get from being around someone and being able to look into their eyes.
But you need to push yourself to be open and say all those things you would say in person because your guy wants to hear it!
9. Someone to Confide In
One of the best things about being with someone special is having someone there to confide in.
This is another thing that gets overlooked in long-distance relationships and couples find it difficult to establish over the phone.
It’ll mean a lot to your guy if you ask him if there is anything on his mind or something he wants to talk about.
10. A Way to Feel that Special Connection with You
This final point is one that’s going to be personal to you and every couple in a long-distance relationship.
You need to find a way to feel that special connection with your guy without being there in person.
This may mean long, romantic calls, special gifts, or surprising him. It’s up to you to find those things that will help your guy feel connected to you on a deep level.
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It’s easy to feel alone, isolated, and distant from a partner in a long distant relationship, but there are a lot of things you can do to take away the distance.
By following the tips in this blog post, you’ll be well on your way to making sure your guy feels loved, connected, and special – even when you’re miles apart.
Do you have any other tips to add from personal experience? Please share in the comments below, I’d love to hear them!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.