If you’ve never had a girlfriend at 30 years old but desperately want one, it’s never too late!
All it means is that you need to change a few things (in a good way) and start looking in the right places.
Here are 10 tips to help you turn your dating fortunes around and get into the dating scene:
Never Had a Girlfriend at 30? 10 Tips to Become a Dating Pro!
1. Work on Your Self-Esteem
Self-esteem and confidence tie into everything to do with dating and are going to be crucial to not only getting a girlfriend but sustaining a healthy relationship.
If you don’t believe in yourself, it’ll be hard to convince anyone else to.
There are a number of ways you can work on your self-esteem:
- Engage in positive self-talk and practice thinking more kindly about yourself.
- Make a list of things you’re proud of that have nothing to do with dating or relationships.
- Challenge your negative beliefs about yourself by asking yourself evidence-based questions e.g., “Do all women find me unattractive?” The answer is no.
- Surround yourself with good people and push the bad people out, this will make a huge difference in your life.
- Talk to a therapist or counselor who can help you manage any negative thoughts and feelings you may have about yourself.
2. Start Loving and Caring for Yourself
This goes hand-in-hand with building self-esteem, but it deserves its own point as having a self-care routine is one of the best lifestyle choices you can make.
I meditate twice a day and have some affirmations I say at night along with some other little things I do as part of my daily routine.
In times of need, little things like this helped turn my life and fortunes around so I’m a believer.
You’ll have to find out what works for you, but I recommend at least making some time for yourself every day to do things that make you happy.
3. Immerse Yourself Into the Dating Scene
If you really want a girlfriend, the deeper you immerse yourself in the dating scene and the more serious you take it, the better your chances will be.
This means creating dating profiles on several dating platforms, learning about dating, getting involved in groups and communities near you, and so on.
The more effort you put into anything in life the better the results are going to be.
This is no different when it comes to dating.
4. Don’t Get Hung up Over Little Things
Emotions are going to be high when you’re doing everything from working on yourself to going on dates, so you’ll need to keep a cool head.
If you’re not someone who can easily get over small things, dating is going to be a tough road for you.
I recommend working on this before getting too deeply involved in the dating scene as it’ll only hold you back.
5. Keep in Mind that It’s a Numbers Game
No one wants to hear this, but dating is a numbers game – and it makes sense if you think about it.
The more people you meet and date the better your chances are of finding someone you’re compatible with.
It’s a simple law of probability.
The problem is that people are inherently bad at taking rejection and become dejected when they don’t meet ‘the one’ quickly.
You’ll need to have tough skin if you want to make it in the dating world and not get too hung up over being rejected and how long it’s taking.
6. Master the Art of Conversation (That Means Listening, Too)
I’d go as far as to say that you can’t be good at dating and you’ll not get a girlfriend unless you’re somewhat good at communication.
So, the better you are at communicating the better your chances will be.
And that doesn’t just mean being able to hold a conversation, it means being a good listener, too.
You should also be aware of non-verbal communication i.e., body language as that makes up the vast majority of how we communicate.
7. Practice Matters in Dating
The old saying, “Practice makes perfect” is very true when it comes to dating.
The more you do it the better you’ll get at it – provided you’re mindful about intentionally improving, too.
Anyone who’s been on a handful of dates will have some nightmare stories and will be able to tell you how important getting experience under their belts was.
It’s all part of the journey, and it goes along with not letting those bad dates get you down.
8. Be Yourself (This Is Important)
I’m sure you’ve heard this one before, but it’s important enough to mention again.
You’re not going to find a girlfriend if you’re pretending to be someone you’re not.
Part of the reason for this is that you won’t be able to keep up the act for long, and part of the reason is that people can or will see right through it at some point.
No matter how badly you want to impress someone, trust me, you will either impress them by being yourself or it’s not worth it.
9. Know What You Want From A Relationship
This is important for two reasons; firstly, if you don’t know what you want it’ll be very difficult to find someone who’s compatible with you.
Secondly, if you’re not clear on what you want from a relationship you’re more likely to end up in an unhealthy or unsatisfying relationship.
Get clear on what your wants and needs are before getting into the dating scene and make sure you’re looking for a partner who meets those needs.
10. Don’t Lose Faith!
Another quote that’s true, and it’s a simple one is, “Never, never give up,” from Winston Churchill.
I know it might sound odd to quote Churchill in the context of dating, but it’s so true!
Dating can be a tough and long road, but if you don’t give up and keep going you will eventually find success.
Is 30 Too Late to Find a Partner?
30 is by no means old in terms of dating. In fact, I’d go as far as to say you’re in your prime!
The dating world is wide open to you and there are plenty of people out there looking for someone just like you.
It’s never too late to find a girlfriend.
The perfect girl is out there waiting to meet you, you don’t even need luck. You just need to be prepared and get yourself out there and start meeting new people.
Is It Weird if You’ve Not Had a Girlfriend by 30 Years Old?
No, it’s not weird to not have had a girlfriend by 30 years old, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
There’s no rule that says you need to have a girlfriend by a certain age.
Everyone is different and some people take longer to find the right person than others.
The most important thing is that you’re happy with your life, even if you don’t have a girlfriend.
If you’re happy and you decide that now is the time to find love, it’ll happen if you allow it to!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.