Do you find yourself asking yourself; why do I want a girlfriend so bad?
First of all, it’s perfectly normal to have strong feelings and thoughts about getting a girlfriend – you’d be the odd one out if you didn’t.
What you do need to answer, however, is why you want a girlfriend so bad and what you’re hoping to get from having one.
In this post, I’m going to help you answer these questions, as well as explain why you’ll find a girlfriend and have a happy ending!
Why Do I Want a Girlfriend so Bad? – 10 Reasons Why You Want a Girlfriend
The first step is to identify why you want a girlfriend. Here are 10 of the most common reasons why guys long for a partner:
1. You Feel Lonely
This is the number one reason why guys want a girlfriend, and why girls want a boyfriend.
When you’re feeling lonely, it’s only natural to want someone by your side to help fill that emptiness.
A partner can provide companionship and love, which are both things we all need in our lives.
In the short term, you should work on increasing your social circle of friends. This will likely lead to you meeting a girlfriend, too!
2. You See Your Friends in Relationships
It’s tough seeing your friends in happy relationships when you’re single.
You may feel left out or like you’re missing out on something special, and it always looks perfect from the outside, doesn’t it?
Of course, it’s natural to want what your friends have. But instead of feeling envious, use their relationship as motivation!
Focus on bettering yourself and your life and you’ll be one step closer to finding a girlfriend of your own.
3. Your Heart Aches for Love
Sometimes there’s just something we feel inside that makes us long for a girlfriend.
This is your heart aching for love.
We all want to be loved, and we all want to love someone else. It’s truly one of the most magical feelings in the world, and we can’t always control it.
If you’re feeling this way, it’s time to listen to your heart and put yourself out there and start dating!
4. You Want to Share Yourself with Someone
We all have things we want to share with someone special in our lives.
Maybe it’s your hopes and dreams, or maybe it’s a part of yourself you’ve never been able to share with anyone else.
When you find someone you can trust and connect with, sharing these things becomes so much easier.
You’ll find someone one day, but for a deep emotional and spiritual connection, it’s not something you can speed up.
5. There Are Times When You Need Someone
There will be times in your life when you need someone, whether it’s for support, advice, or just a shoulder to cry on.
In these moments, having a girlfriend would be invaluable.
Of course, you can always lean on your friends and family in these situations as well, but sometimes we just need someone to whom we are closer emotionally.
I understand if this is part or all of the reason why you really want a girlfriend, it’s the way a lot of guys feel.
6. You Dream of Having a Family
For some guys, the thought of having a family one day is something they spend a lot of time thinking about.
It’s only natural to wonder when you’re going to meet that someone special to start a family with – but rushing it is the worst thing you can do.
You need to focus on meeting people you have things in common with and connect on a deep level.
Everything else will fall into place, trust me.
7. You Want Someone to Care For
We all want to feel needed and wanted, and sometimes the best way to get that is by taking care of someone.
When you have a girlfriend, you can show her your caring side and make her feel special by doing things for her.
It’s all part of being in a relationship, and it’s a special feeling that’s reserved for when you’re in a loving relationship.
8. You Don’t Feel Complete
Much like that longing feeling some guys get for wanting love in their lives, there is also an emptiness some guys feel.
It’s hard to explain, it’s often described as just not feeling ‘complete’ which makes perfect sense to me.
If you’re feeling like something is missing and you know that hole will be filled with a loving relationship, it’s understandable.
9. You Feel Like You’re Missing Out
Another of the most common reasons a lot of guys want a girlfriend is because they feel like they’re missing out.
It’s tough when all your friends are in relationships and you’re the only one single.
You can’t help but wonder what you’re doing wrong or if there’s something wrong with you.
I’m here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with you, and you shouldn’t feel like you’re missing out.
Sure, when you find a girlfriend you’ll feel more complete. But in the meantime, you’re just on the same journey as everyone else.
10. You’re Worried About What People Think of You
The last reason I’m going to mention here is one that a lot of guys are afraid to admit, but it’s definitely a common one.
When we’re single, sometimes we worry about what people think of us.
You might feel like they think you’re not good enough, that something is wrong with you, or that you’re not into girls.
It’s important to ignore peer pressure and not to listen to your thoughts or feelings about what others might be thinking about you.
You might be wrong about what they’re thinking, in fact, you probably are. Plus it just doesn’t matter what people think.
You’ve got your own life and future to think about. You have to meet someone special for all of the right reasons, and worrying about what people think is not one of them.
Will Having a Girlfriend Resolve the Reasons Why You Want One?
It’s important to understand that having a girlfriend is not going to fix all of your problems or make all of your dreams come true.
However, it can help with some of the reasons I’ve mentioned above.
For example, if you’re feeling empty and alone, being in a relationship will definitely help with that.
But if you’re worried about what other people think, are looking for someone to take care of you, or just feel like you’re missing out, that’s not fair to put on another person.
It’s important to be happy with yourself first and foremost, and then look for a relationship when you’re in a good place emotionally.
Is There a Point to Having a Girlfriend?
I think there is, but it’s different for everyone.
For some guys, they just want to feel loved and needed. For others, it’s more about finding someone to start a family with.
And then there are those who feel like something is missing in their life and hope that a girlfriend will help fill that void.
Whatever your reasons are, make sure they’re your own and that you’re not just looking for a girlfriend because you think it will fix everything.
Find someone special who makes you happy and who you can see yourself with long-term, and then work on making the relationship the best it can be.
Will You Ever Find a Girlfriend?
I believe that everyone can find happiness in a relationship if they really want to.
But it’s not always easy, and it takes time and effort.
You might have to go on a lot of dates, kiss a lot of frogs, or experience heartbreak before you find the right person.
And that’s OK.
The journey is just as important as the destination, and you’ll learn a lot about yourself along the way.
If you’re patient, stay positive, and keep putting yourself out there, I’m confident that you’ll find the girl of your dreams.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.