If your husband is lazy and unmotivated, it’s incredibly frustrating and can bring you down too if you’re not careful.
However, if you want to be a supportive wife and help him get out of this rut there are a number of things you can do.
Here are 10 tips to help if your husband is lazy and unmotivated and in need of some inspiration!
My Husband Is Lazy and Unmotivated! 10 Tips to Break the Cycle
1. Get to The Root Cause of His Demotivation
There is always a root cause when someone is down, demotivated, being lazy, and generally not operating at their fullest potential.
Before you can help your husband, you need to understand why he is in this low place.
It may be because he’s bored of doing the same things all the time, doesn’t have a fulfilling job, is lacking personal passion – you’ll have to ask him to find out.
What I will say is, don’t assume you know what it is and never play it off as something your husband should shake off.
Really take the time to help him open up and find out what’s holding him back right now.
2. Have a Real Heart-To-Heart Conversation
Whether you know what the root cause of his demotivation is or not, it’s time to have a serious conversation with your husband.
Again, this isn’t going to be easy because you’re essentially asking your husband to confront whatever is holding him back.
But it needs to be done.
And it needs to be done in a supportive way without judgment or anger.
Your husband may need some coaxing to open up but try to be as understanding as possible.
3. Encourage and Appreciate His Efforts
If your husband is trying to be more motivated and work through his laziness, make sure you encourage him.
Encouragement goes a long way when someone is feeling down and is often the first step in getting them back on track.
So, even if he’s not where you want him to be yet, make it clear you appreciate his efforts and remind him how proud you are of him.
4. Suggest Some Fun Activities You Can Do Together
One way to help break the cycle of your husband’s laziness is to suggest some fun activities you can do together.
It could be anything from going for a hike to taking a dance class.
The key is to find something that will get him moving and excited.
If you can draw out his competitive nature, even better!
5. Try and Get Him to Do Some Physical Exercise with You
Exercise is a great way to increase energy levels and get out of a funk.
So, if your husband is feeling lazy and unmotivated, try and get him to do some physical exercise with you.
It doesn’t have to be anything too strenuous, just something to get his blood flowing.
Exercise releases feel-good hormones like endorphins and can help improve mood, so it’s definitely worth a shot.
6. Start by Setting Small Goals
One of the biggest motivational factors is goals.
But when someone is feeling down, the thought of having to accomplish something can be very daunting.
Yet achieving something is a small win that releases good hormones and can be the start they need to get out of a rut.
That’s why it’s important to start by setting small goals.
These can be anything from taking a brisk walk every day to reading one new book this month.
The key is to make sure the goals are realistic and attainable.
7. Lead by Example and Step up Your Own Game
If you want your husband to be more motivated, one of the best things you can do is lead by example.
I’m not suggesting you’re lazy, far from it, but you’re going to need to pick up his slack so that means stepping up your own game.
This might include doing more around the house, taking on more responsibility, and just generally being more proactive.
It’s not fair to carry the load while he watches from a distance, so don’t let this turn into him taking advantage!
8. Find More Hobbies and Things You Can Do Together
Having hobbies and things you love to do is a great way to stay motivated.
But when your husband is lazy, it can be hard to find things you can do together.
That’s why it’s important to find more hobbies and things that will pique his interest.
It could be anything from exploring new restaurants to taking up a new sport.
The key is to find something that will get both of you excited and engaged – and I’m sure you can find something!
9. Start Holding Each Other Accountable
When someone is being lazy, they often need someone to hold them accountable.
Holding your husband accountable means being there to encourage him, motivate him, and push him to do better.
It also means being honest with him when he’s not meeting your expectations.
This can be a delicate balance, but it’s important to find a way to do it without being too harsh or judgmental.
It helps if you also give him things to hold you accountable for so he does feel like he’s being picked on.
10. Don’t Be Afraid to Seek Professional Help Together
If you’ve tried everything and your husband is still lazy and unmotivated, it might be time to seek professional help together.
This could be anything from talking to a therapist to getting a coach for him.
There’s no shame in admitting you need help and it could be exactly what he needs to get out of his funk.
The most important thing is to communicate with each other and be there for each other through thick and thin.
Why It’s so Hard to Get out Of a Rut
When you’re in a rut, it can feel like you’re stuck there forever.
But it doesn’t have to be that way!
There are plenty of things you can do to get out of a rut and start feeling better.
The key is to find what works for you and to be patient.
Getting out of a rut takes time, but it’s definitely worth the effort.
Some of the well-known tried and tested ways to get out of a rut is to take baby steps and start trying.
Whether this is off your own back or – hopefully – with the help of your partner or close friends.
If you start with small goals and start doing things that are fun, being more spontaneous, and most importantly trying, you can absolutely do it!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.