We all get mad with our partners from time-to-time. It’s perfectly normal, and honestly, it’s healthy to let some anger out. It’s how you let that anger out that matters.
If you’re mad with your boyfriend about something, it’s important you handle your anger and the reasons behind why you’re angry properly.
You want to let them know why you’re angry. You also want to address the reason why they made you angry without pushing them away or escalating the issue.
Here are some of the ways you can deal with your anger and strengthen the relationship you have with your boyfriend:
How to Act When You’re Mad at Your Boyfriend
Understand the Reasons Behind Your Anger
The first thing you need to do, and this might have to happen when you’re not emotional or angry, is to be honest about why you’re angry.
You’ve probably heard the saying, “cooler heads will prevail”. This means you can think clearer when you’re calm, so take a moment to calm down and think.
With a clear understanding of what it is that made you so angry, you can talk to him about it and find a resolution so it doesn’t happen again.
If you are having consistent issues with anger, it might be a good idea to look into counseling. Therapy has done amazing things in my life, and I really recommend it. Online-therapy.com is a great online therapy platform and they are currently offering 20% off.
Let Him Know Why You’re Angry Without Placing Blame
The next step is to talk to your boyfriend. Communication is vital to a healthy relationship and making sure that the same things don’t keep happening.
It’s important you approach this without blaming him – even if it is his fault. You don’t want to make him feel bad or push him away.
But discussing the problem and highlighting what it was that made you mad, he’ll realize for himself what he did wrong. Trust me, it’ll register with him.
Don’t Hold a Grudge – But Don’t Brush It Aside
It’s important to your emotional and psychological wellbeing that you find a way to move forward and let go of this anger.
To do this, you can’t hold a grudge against your boyfriend. Regardless of how he’s dealing with it on his side, you can’t hold on to it.
At the same time, I’m not saying you should just brush it off either. By talking through it with your boyfriend you should have come to some kind of resolution.
Try and See His Point of View
I can’t comment on the exact reason why you’re mad at your boyfriend as I don’t know the details.
There are always two sides to every story though. You should always at least hear him out to hear his side of the story, even if you think it’s obvious.
Sometimes, when someone is clearly at fault and doing things to make a loved one angry it’s a way they are expressing their own insecurities.
If you can get him to really dig deep and talk about his feelings, you might reach a point you’ve not got to before. It can turn into a healing exercise where you both grow closer and get a better understanding of your relationship.
Focus on Finding a Solution
Ultimately you need to find a solution. You can’t give him the cold shoulder forever, right?
You’ll know him better than anyone. I’d like to think that this incident isn’t so bad that it’s going to trigger the end of your relationship. Unless you really are in a toxic relationship and this was the final straw of course.
More often than not, you just need to find a solution that works for both of you. Making up with your boyfriend is always fun. If he’s seen the error of his ways through the previous steps, then he should be doing something to make it right!
I hope this article has helped you better understand how to act when you’re mad at your boyfriend.
The key thing to remember when you’re angry with your boyfriend is that it’s OK to express your anger.
Just try to do it in a constructive way. It’s probable that you both need to work on communicating your feelings and work together to ensure you don’t put each other in a position where you’re angry often.
It’s going to happen from time-to-time. No couples are perfect. Living or being with someone else has its challenges, it’s how you deal with these challenges that make the difference.
Related – Does your boyfriend have a really bad temper? Read this.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.