As a person who tends to get obsessive over things, I went from being way overweight to being in excellent shape back in 2020.
In doing so, I was able to see how people, and more so women, reacted and behaved towards me as both being overweight and in shape.
I know this is a topic that a lot of overweight guys think about, so I thought I’d share my experience and thoughts on the topic.
Here is what female attention after weight loss was like for me and how I handled it.
Why I Decided To Lose Weight
Everyone decides to lose weight for their own reasons, but for a lot of guys (and girls) it’s to do with body image and what others think of us.
In my case, I was feeling down about a number of things and knew I would feel more confident if I lost weight.
Now, obviously, I can’t promise anything or tell you what is going to happen if you lose weight.
It’s also important you decide to lose weight for the right reasons and not because of what people think.
It’s something you should do for yourself, and although it was a factor for me I knew the main reason was so that I could be healthier and more confident.
What Female Attention After Weight Loss Was Like For Me
It’s not like I did a before and after case study, but what I can tell you is that I did get more female attention after weight loss.
It wasn’t like there were women throwing themselves at me, but it was noticeable.
People just seemed to treat me differently, and I often had a number of women ask me about working out and what kind of exercise I was doing.
It was also nice to see that if I struck up conversations with women they were more receptive to it as well.
Now, there is a caveat to this….
Is It Really Physical – or Mental?
Something I want to point out is that when I lost weight, I looked different but I also had a boost in confidence.
It could have been this boost in confidence itself that made me more ‘attractive’ and increased the attention I receive from women.
Because at the end of the day, confidence is attractive to women.
So, I just wanted to point out that in some cases, it may be more mental than physical.
That being said, I can tell you that having a toned body also helped and I felt more attractive in general.
So, the two are intertwined, for me at least.
I wasn’t going to have the boost in confidence without working out and losing weight, so it’s hard for me to separate the two things.
Do People Really Become More Attractive After Losing Weight?
Even having been on both sides, so to speak, I still don’t think it’s fair to say that people are more attractive after losing weight.
At least, it’s just not as simple as saying that you’ll be more attractive or attract more women if you lose weight.
I mean, sure, there is the obvious physical attraction that exists between people and we can’t ignore that.
But attractiveness definitely runs a lot deeper than just the physical side, especially if you’re talking about long-term attraction and relationships.
In the end, it’s important to remember that people come in all shapes and sizes and beauty is subjective.
I would also say that your self-esteem, confidence, and attitude will have a much bigger impact on your ‘attractiveness’ than just losing weight.
Being in good physical shape might open more doors, but without the right attitude, you’re not going to get anywhere.
Do People’s Personalities Change When They Lose Weight?
There are numerous scientific studies (like this one) that prove there is a link between weight loss and personality.
For most people, when they lose a lot of weight it leads to an increase in self-confidence which can have a positive effect on their personality.
It can also have a positive impact on their lives in general, which can lead to more extroverted personalities and less depression.
However, it’s important to remember that an increase in self-confidence and a more extroverted personality can also come from other factors.
It’s not something that is exclusive to weight loss, so you should try and look at the bigger picture if you are aware you need to work on your mental health.
Always Remember to Be Yourself!
I want to end by reminding you that you should always be yourself, and that’s what is going to garner you the most attention from women – if that’s what you’re after.
It doesn’t matter if you’re overweight or not, what matters is that you have the confidence and attitude to back it up and you’re true to yourself.
Women – and guys – like it when they’re talking to someone who is authentic, honest, and true to themselves.
If you try to be someone you’re not, it will be obvious and you won’t get the results you want.
So, if you’re considering losing weight for the sole purpose of getting more female attention, I would suggest you reconsider and focus on becoming the best version of yourself.
That’s what will attract people in the long run.
Sure, being in shape is good for your health, will have a positive impact on your mental health, and will contribute to improving your relationship or attracting more women.
All of which are great, but don’t lose sight of who you are and why you want to lose weight – I didn’t!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.