If your relationship with your husband isn’t working out and he already has a girlfriend before you’ve split, I’m sure I don’t need to tell you things can get messy.
If you’re wondering, can my husband move his girlfriend into our house?
The answer is yes, he can.
Legally, he can (might have to check your state-specific laws), although morally it’s obviously questionable!
Here is where you stand and what you should do if you find yourself in this situation:
Can My Husband Moved His Girlfriend Into Our House?
Here is the deal; if you own a home with your husband he is entitled to move whoever he wants into the home, including his girlfriend.
Just as you are able to.
If you’ve moved out of the home, you have the legal right to move back in, too.
This could, of course, be contested and taken to a judge. Depending on where you live, a judge has the power to award “exclusive possession” and make a ruling on who can live in the home.
If you’ve moved out of the home and you are moving on with your life but you still don’t want your husband to move his girlfriend into the home you both own, you don’t have a legal basis to stop him.
I appreciate this might not be what you want to hear, but the bigger question here is where you both go from this point.
You Really Need to Talk to Your Husband
If you haven’t moved out of the marital home yet and your husband is already talking about moving his girlfriend in, you need to have a serious talk with him.
Sometimes people get carried away in the moment, and if he’s over you (no matter what your feelings are) he might want to push you out.
You both need to sit down and talk about what this would mean for your relationship practically, and financially, and how it makes you feel.
If are both on the deeds for your home, it’s not as simple as pushing you out and bringing his new girlfriend in.
You need to speak to a lawyer first and foremost. You should protect yourself financially and legally against his actions, then you can take the emotional issues.
Is Your Husband Living with Girlfriend During Your Separation?
If your husband has moved on and is living with his girlfriend while you separate, this isn’t that uncommon.
It doesn’t necessarily mean he has anything against you or wants to hurt you, he might just feel the need to move on.
There is also a range of emotions guys go through when they’re getting divorced, and rebounding and needing to feel loved is one of them.
It’s probably not a good idea for him and puts added pressure on his new relationship, but that isn’t your concern.
If this is your situation, you should speak to a lawyer and start the process of divorce, and move on with your life, too.
Obviously, I can’t comment on your specific situation, and I can only imagine how difficult it is, but you should also try and distance yourself from your husband if he’s bringing his new girlfriend into your home.
The last thing you want is a conflict or any explosive encounters with your husband or his new partner!
Can the Three of You Live Under the Same Roof?
In theory, the three of you – you, your husband, and his girlfriend – could live under the same roof.
But I can’t think of too many scenarios where that is going to work out well.
The most common reason why divorcing couples do something like this is due to financial constraints.
It’s hard for a lot of couples to move on and get their own place before a divorce and the division of all assets is final.
In an ideal world, your husband would have enough respect for you that he would wait before moving in with his new girlfriend.
If this isn’t the case and you’re in a bind financially, you’ll need to make the best of the situation.
You Need to Focus on Yourself if You’re Separating
I know this is often easier said than done, but the most important thing when you’re going through a separation is that you take the time to focus on yourself and your own wellbeing.
Divorce is always a difficult and trying time and it’s easy to get caught up in the madness and get stressed.
This is especially true if your husband has moved his girlfriend into your home during your separation!
Try and take the high road, don’t lower yourself to doing similar things that you, and don’t think about revenge.
Instead, focus on your own life, and think about how you can come out of this situation stronger, healthier, and happier than before.
Have You Been in A Similar Situation?
If you’ve been in a similar situation as described in this article, or maybe you’re going through this right now, I’d love to hear how you coped and how it all turned out.
Please feel free to leave a comment below, it might help out some of the other readers.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.