Love is one of the most important feelings in the world. I’m sure you’ll agree with that statement.
Not just because of how it makes us feel, but because as humans, we crave love from those around us and it helps to bring out the best in us.
Love can be both the most secure and vulnerable emotion and feeling in a relationship. But one thing we all want for sure is to know our partner really loves us.
How do you know if they really do love you?
Well, there are always going to be signs when someone is in love. The best you can do is look for as many of these signs as possible.
People can be hard to read. To give you some help, here are 12 of the most common signs that your partner really loves you:
12 Signs That Your Partner Really Loves You
1. They Always Want to Spend Time With You
We all lead busy lives and have more than enough things to get self-absorbed with. Wanting to spend time – quality time – with someone is a definite sign of strong emotional feelings.
Obviously, there is a line between smothering and crowding someone and just genuinely enjoying spending time with them.
You’ll know if they want, and enjoy spending time with you. It’s an amazing feeling, and I hope you feel the same way.
2. They Are Genuinely Interested in How Your Day Went
Leading on from the last point, if your partner is genuinely interested in how your day went, regardless of how stressful theirs was, that’s love.
It takes a genuine emotional connection with another person to really care about them. You don’t have to remember to ask how they’re doing, it comes naturally.
There is a huge difference between asking, and wanting to know, too. You’ll know they’re interested in how well they listen and remember what you say.
3. They Trust You Unconditionally
Trust is one of the most important factors and foundations in any relationship. Lack of trust and the problems it causes is right up there with the most common reasons why relationships fail.
It’s normal to want to know what a partner is up to, and to have some of those lingering doubts. But, unless you can trust someone and let them live without doubting them it’s going to cause problems in the relationship.
Knowing your partner isn’t going to check your phone when you’re not looking, question you, and snoop is a wonderful feeling. Make sure you do the same!
4. They Always Smile When You’re Around
Remember what it’s like when you first meet someone special? You can’t stop smiling when you think about them, are around them, etc.
We can’t live in the honeymoon period forever, I’m not suggesting that. There will be ups and downs, fights, and everything in between.
But if you want to test whether or not your partner really loves you, stare or smile at them and see how they react. If they can’t help but smile, you know.
5. They Put You First
We all know a few self-absorbed people, right? Might be a friend or a family member, you can never rely on them no matter how important it is.
This shouldn’t happen when you’re in a relationship with your soul mate. Sure, at times we can get a little lost, it happens to the best of us.
But when it’s really needed and when it’s important to you, they should always put you before themselves.
6. They Include You in Important Decisions
There are a lot of decisions in a relationship. From the stuff that affects the other person to the mundane house bills and admin stuff.
Nothing hurts more than being left out of important decisions though. Even if it’s not an area you specialize in, I’m sure you just want to be heard. Everyone does.
If they care about your feelings, they’ll include you in important decisions. More importantly, they’ll value your opinion.
7. They Are Excited to Introduce You to Family and Friends
There are a number of reasons why one person in a relationship hides their partner from their family and social circles.
It isn’t always because they don’t love them, but it’s a huge red flag. If they do love you, and you want to stop being in the background, they’ll listen and tackle whatever it is stopping them.
It’s one of the issues a lot of women, in particular, face in relationships.
8. You Get That Warm Feeling Inside When You’re Around Them
It’s not only external signals from your partner that show you they love you. Love is powerful, it’s contagious, it’s something you’ll feel and sense, too.
Do you ever get a warm, safe, or an excited feeling when you’re around your partner? That’s not just on you, that’s the chemistry going back and forth between the two of you.
There are so many positives to being in a loving relationship. It’s good for our emotional and mental health and helps build self-esteem, confidence, and more.
9. They Plan Things Into the Future With You
When a partner isn’t willing to look to the future and make concrete plans, it’s one of those red flags.
You don’t need to get carried away and assume he’s planning on leaving. Some people just find it hard to mentally put themselves in the future.
It’s not a good sign though. I would talk this through with them and see where they see themselves and the relationship in the future.
10. They Do Thoughtful Things for You
I bet you remember every thoughtful thing your partner does for you, right? Because it always feels great.
It’s one of those sure signs that they care for you and love you. Something has to drive a person to do thoughtful things for another, it’s not something that just happens.
If they’re still surprising you years into the relationship, you’ve got yourself a winner.
11. They Are Affectionate Towards You
Affection is important in a relationship. Not only does it outwardly show you that your partner is attracted to you, but it also helps us understand our own emotional feelings.
It doesn’t always have to be a public display. It’s natural to be a bit embarrassed around others, but a relationship with no affection is lacking something.
There is a lot of evidence to show that showing affection in a relationship helps the other partner give some back. It’s a win-win.
12. They Are Always There in Times of Need
If you can’t rely on your partner in times of need, who can you rely on? You shouldn’t have to ask more than once, either.
When you love someone, you enjoy helping them. It gives you a sense of satisfaction seeing them happier from your actions.
A partner who truly cares about their significant other would go to great lengths to make sure they’re happy. How far would you go?
How many of the above list applies to you and your partner?
Don’t stress if you’re thinking not many, there are many other ways someone shows they love their partner.
What’s important is that you really take notice of how they’re behaving and what they’re doing – and make sure you give them plenty back!
Image credits – Photo by Pablo Merchán Montes on Unsplash
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.