Are you tired of your broke boyfriend?
Is it putting a strain on your relationship being the main breadwinner and always paying for everything?
You’re not alone!
Financial inequality is common in relationships and it’s a major cause of arguments – especially when one partner is broke!
If you’re tired of supporting your broke boyfriend, here are my suggestions:
Tired of My Broke Boyfriend
Is He Trying to Improve His Financial Situation?
I never look down on anyone for being broke, I’ve been there myself on more than one occasion – as I’m sure most have!
What really counts is what we do to try and improve our financial situation, and why/how we ended up broke in the first place.
If your boyfriend is desperately trying to improve his financial situation and you’re supporting him, that’s admirable.
But if he’s not making any effort to change his circumstances and is content to just sit back and let you pay for everything, that’s not cool.
Also, you have to look at why he’s broke.
If he’s going through education or has just entered the workforce, it’s understandable that he might be broke for a while.
On the other hand, if your boyfriend has been working a good-paying job for a while but he’s broke because he can’t manage his finances properly, understandably that’s frustrating.
Either way, if it’s putting stress on your relationship it’s time to have a serious talk with him.
Be aware that finances are not something that’s quickly turned around (unless you win the lottery or something).
You might need to help him put a budget together or make some plans for the future, but if you love him and want to support him it’s worth working on.
Related – Here is why it’s so tough dating a guy with financial issues.
Is He Taking Advantage of You?
This is another question you need to ask yourself, and it’s an important one.
If your boyfriend is taking advantage of you financially, it’s not a healthy situation for either of you.
It’s important to remember that you’re not his personal ATM and you shouldn’t feel obligated to support him financially.
If he’s expecting you to pay for everything or always bail him out when he’s in a financial bind, that’s not fair.
You should be able to enjoy your own money and not have to worry about supporting him all the time.
Sure, it’s nice to help him out as you’re in a relationship, but this also ties into the last point.
If he’s not trying to improve his situation, it sounds like he might be taking advantage of you.
If you’re not sure whether or not your boyfriend is taking you for granted, ask some of your close friends what they think.
Sometimes, those close to us can provide interesting, unbiased insights while we have slightly clouded judgment due to being all loved up!
How Much Does He Mean to You?
Another important question is how much your boyfriend really means to you.
This might seem like a strange question to ask when you’re wondering whether or not to support your broke boyfriend, but it’s important to think about.
We’ve all (I have) been in relationships where we didn’t really know the person that well, yet we still financially supported them.
In these cases, it’s often more out of guilt or a sense of obligation than anything else.
However, if you’re in a long-term, committed relationship with someone you love, it’s a different story.
If your boyfriend means the world to you and you can’t imagine your life without him, then, of course, you’re going to want to help him out.
You still need to have that conversation and motivate them to improve their financial situation, but I’m sure you’ll agree there is going to be a little more leeway.
So, it’s time to have an honest conversation with yourself about why you’re with your boyfriend, how much you’re supporting him, and how you feel about it!
You Don’t Need to Feel Bad if You Want to Leave Him
This point is also worth mentioning because the last thing you should feel if you’re tired of your broke boyfriend is that you should stay with him for any reason other than you love him and want to be with him.
If his financial problems are causing arguments and issues in your relationship you need to try and address those issues.
If you can’t figure these issues out, that means you need to consider if you want to be with him or not.
It’s not an easy decision, but it is one you need to make.
You also don’t need to feel guilty about leaving him because he’s broke.
Some people might try and make you feel guilty by saying things like “but he’s down on his luck”, or “he can’t support himself”, but that’s not your problem.
If he can’t support himself, that’s his problem and he needs to figure out how to fix it.
You’re not responsible for him or his financial problems, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about leaving if that’s what you want to do.
The decision is ultimately up to you, but whatever you decide just make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons.
Related – 15 of the most common disadvantages of dating a guy who is flat broke.
Follow Your Heart!
At the end of the day, I totally understand if you’re tired of your broke boyfriend – it’s tiring supporting someone financially!
It’s worth saying again that you need to do what’s best for you, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about leaving if that’s what you want to do.
The most important thing is that you follow your heart and do what feels right for you.
I hope this article has helped give you some clarity on the situation and helped you make a decision about what to do next. Good luck!
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.