It can be difficult to know what to say to someone before a funeral and choosing the right words is something many stress over.
It’s going to be a tough day, so saying something heartfelt and sincere is going to make a huge difference to them.
To help you out, here are examples of what to say to someone before a funeral:
What to Say to Someone Before a Funeral You Are Attending
If you’re also attending a funeral, it’s important you let the person know you’re there for them and share in the celebration, pain, and other emotions.
Some of the things you can say are:
- “I know today is going to be hard, just remember that I’ll be right there with you the whole time.”
I like these words as you’re acknowledging it’s going to be difficult but you’re telling them you’re right there supporting them.
- “I wish I could take away all the pain you’re feeling, but know that I’ll be there to support you every step of the way.”
This is another option that lets them know you can’t take away their pain, but you’ll be with them through it all which can be very comforting.
- “Today is going to be difficult, but let’s keep in mind that we’re celebrating a wonderful person and saying our final goodbye.”
Keeping the focus on the positive and celebrating the life of the person who has passed can help make the day more bearable.
- “It’s a privilege to be at [name’s] service, I’m looking forward to celebrating his life with you and their family.”
Again, this keeps the focus on the person who has passed and how lucky we are to have known them.
- “Why don’t you come over to mine after the funeral today? I’d love to share some of my personal memories of [name].”
Spending time together after the funeral to talk about the person who has passed can be really beneficial for both of you. It’s certainly nice to offer, whether they take you up or not.
- “[name] touched a lot of people, today is going to be something. Don’t hesitate to talk to me if you need anything.”
Recognizing that the funeral is going to be a big deal for everyone involved and letting them know you’re there if they need anything can mean a lot to someone who is grieving.
- “You’re in my thoughts and prayers today, I’ll find you after the service for a chat.”
Sending your thoughts and prayers is a nice gesture, and letting them know you’ll be there for a chat afterward can be really reassuring.
Here are some examples of what to say to someone going to a funeral;
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What to Say to Someone Before a Funeral You’re Not Attending
If you’re not attending the funeral, it’s important you pass on your condolences and let the person know you’re thinking of them and there in spirit.
Some of the things you can say are:
- “My deepest sympathies, my dear friend. I know the service will be beautiful and hope you find comfort and peace during this difficult time.”
This is a nice way to wish them all the best and let them know that you’re there in spirit as you’re not able to be there in person.
- “I’m sorry for your loss. I know how much you’re missing [name], please accept my sincerest sympathy on this difficult day.”
This is a more formal way to let them know you’re thinking of them and offer your condolences if you’re not that close.
- “I’ll be thinking of you during the service, please don’t forget that I’m here for you any time of day or night.”
This is a way of offering your support and letting them know you’re there for them if they need to talk.
- “Just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you during these difficult times, I am praying for you, and grieving with you.”
This is a religious way to show your support and offer your condolences.
- “I can’t imagine how you must be feeling right now. If you need anything please let me know.”
This is a way of saying you know they must be hurting and offering your support.
- “Today is going to be tough, but it’s wonderful that you get to celebrate [name’s] life and I’m sure the service will do them proud.”
This is a way of acknowledging how tough the day is going to be, but also bringing the celebration side to the forefront.
- “You’re in my thoughts and prayers today, I’m available to meet up any time you’re free, just ask.”
This is a short and simple way of offering your support and making it clear you’re available.
Why It’s Important to Pass on Your Condolences Before a Funeral
It’s really important to let the person know you’re thinking of them before the funeral as it can be a really tough and emotional day.
The main thing to keep in mind is that no matter how difficult it is to speak to someone or find the right words, saying something is always better than not saying anything.
Your words don’t have to be perfect, just genuine.
So long as you show that you’re there for the person and offer your condolences, that’s all that really matters.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.