Good, effective communication is essential to any long-term relationship. Friends, loved ones, work colleagues, whatever the relationship, it’s always important.
There are various ways to work on communication, and often each individual situation needs to be looked at. But there are definitely some constants that can help a lot.
Consciousness is an important key skill, and can be make or break when it comes to communicating. Especially being able to be consciously be aware of the social interaction, and the communication.
Here are some very useful and effective tips to improve effective communication. Working on being a more consciously aware communicator will improve your relationships with everyone close to you. From parents, friends, family, etc
So it’s always a skill worth working on.
How Consciously Aware Communication Improves Relationships
Being Careful with Your Vocabulary
The spoken word can be powerful weapon. It can get you into some deep trouble, or likewise save you just as easily. Being misunderstood is also a common cause of confusion which can more often than not be avoided.
Start being more careful with your choice of words, and the way you speak to others. Think about how you are being interpreted, and if there is any ambiguous meaning behind what you are saying.
Basically you are being more mindful about the words you choose to you. If you have a habit of putting your foot in your mouth, by thinking before you speak you can stop doing that.
Honor Your Word
When making deals or promises, we need to be held to our word sometimes. People who are known to be honest and true to their word are respected by others.
If you say you are going to do something, do it. If you start making promises you can’t keep you’re going to fall out of favor pretty quick, and it’s not easy to repair a reputation.
Don’t use the words ‘I promise’ lightly. A lot of people say this in a casual ‘I don’t really mean it’ kind of way. My advice is no matter how cool the slang, don’t say something unless you mean it.
Likewise, if you say you will get back to someone – get back to them. Even if it’s just to tell them you haven’t forgotten about them.
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
It’s a tough and lonely journey if you go it alone. Never be afraid to ask for help, but be careful how you ask. Firstly, what are the reasons for not being able to ask for help?
Most people fear rejection, or don’t feel like the deserve the help, or possibly don’t want to be in debt to the person. But these aren’t reasons not to ask, especially if you have willing friends.
When approaching someone for help, always be consciously aware when it’s an appropriate time and person to ask. For example, if someone is going through a tough time, obviously they probably need help more than they can help.
Sometimes It Requires to Be Written Down
Verbal communication isn’t the only way to communicate to people. It’s one of many different ways. Not everyone responds well to the spoken word, and it’s up to you to judge the best way to communicate with someone.
I find that writing to someone is still a really effective way to communicate on a deep level. Giving someone the opportunity to read your message, and think it over can work well for apologies, heart-felt notes, and messages you want them to keep.
This works well for the person delivering the message too. If you are nervous or find it hard to articulate yourself, try writing it down. You can even pass a note in person and wait for it to be read.
Practice Makes Perfect
Because we all grow up leaning to speak it’s easy to become complacent. But communicating effectively goes way beyond just talking, and like any skill it requires practice.
The easiest way to practice and improve your communication skills is to surround yourself with people who are already good communicators.
How do you recognize a good communicator? They are great at persuading people to do as they ask, people respect and look up to them, and they flourish in social situations.
It can be daunting at first, and you don’t have to make it obvious, but make mental notes are learn from them.
By following these tips, and Your relationships will improve, you will gain confidence and self-esteem, and you will become a more effective communicator.
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.