Do you feel like you’re the black sheep in your family?
It’s not a nice feeling when you’re left out of family meetings, treated differently, and generally looked down on.
If you want to find out if you’re really the black sheep of the family, this ‘Am I the Black Sheep of the Family Quiz’ with 15 questions will help answer that question for you!
Am I the Black Sheep of the Family Quiz
Results
The results indicate that your feelings and suspicions are right, yes – you are treated as the black sheep in the family.
I’ve added some notes after the quiz to help communicate to your family how this makes you feel.
It’s important you say something if it’s upsetting you or making you feel like you don’t belong.
Having a strong sense of belonging with your own family is important, as I’m sure you’ll agree – so please do something!
The results suggest that you may not be seen as the black sheep – at least not as strongly as you feel.
Still, if you’re not happy about how you’re being treated by your family you should speak up and say something!
I’ve added some advice to the bottom of this post, please check it out and feel free to leave a comment if you have any questions!
#1. Are you often left out of important family decisions?
#2. Do your siblings compete with you and make you feel like you’re worse than they are?
#3. Are you always the first to be blamed when things go wrong?
#4. Do you feel like you just don’t ‘fit in’ with your family?
#5. Does your family ignore you or not take your input seriously?
#6. Do you dread going to large family gatherings?
#7. Are your hobbies and interests very different from your family’s?
#8. Are your parents stricter with you than your siblings?
#9. Does your family tease and make jokes at your expense?
#10. Do you feel emotionally detached from your family members?
#11. Do your family members call you ‘weird’ or say they don’t ‘get you’?
#12. Do you have very different friends and peer groups than your siblings?
#13. Do you try harder and get less recognition than your siblings?
#14. Do you spend a lot of time alone?
#15. Do you get a strong gut feeling you’re treated differently?
Related – What to do if your family never contacts you or if they only contact you when they want something.
What Does It Mean to Be the Black Sheep of A Family?
Being the black sheep of a family means that you feel out of place, misunderstood, and not accepted.
As the black sheep, you will be treated differently from your siblings or even ignored completely by certain family members who don’t see eye-to-eye with you.
It’s essentially a feeling of alienation and exclusion in your own family.
Sometimes you’ll end up as the black sheep because you’ve done something to bring embarrassment or shame to yourself and your family.
But for some people, simply having different interests and hobbies than the rest of their family members will ostracize them.
How Can You Stop Being the Black Sheep?
If you think that you are the black sheep of your family and want to take steps toward changing this, here are a few tips:
Talk to Your Family Members
First, try talking to your family members about why you feel like you don’t fit in.
You could start by being honest and open-minded when discussing these feelings and try to understand their point of view as well.
Reach Out for Support
You could also reach out for support from outside sources, such as friends or family members who are not a part of your immediate family.
It’s important that you have someone to talk to and lean on when feeling down about your current situation.
Learn to Love Yourself
Most importantly, learn to love yourself and accept who you are.
You’re unique for a reason and should be proud of that!
No matter what your family or anyone else thinks, you can choose to take control of your own life and make it the best it can be.
Don’t Push Back
If your family members are struggling to understand or accept you right now, it’ll only get worse if you enter into conflict with them about it.
Try not to push back or start arguments and rather focus your energy on other more productive things.
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Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.
Thank you, thank you this has been an great 👁️ eye-opener for myself with there’s nothing wrong with loving myself for years in my life I never knew what was going on like Rudolph the red nosed reindeer! I stay away from my family as much as possible since my Dad died 40yrs ago he was my lifeline & my Mom die12yrs ago I don’t do family at all anymore drama & they real, extremely extra so I m fine where I’m at . It did affect me a lot in things of my life but I just thank God that I’ve decided to love, live,& laugh and keep it moving! Regardless,cause if I don’t come no one else will. Again thank you 💯
Glad you enjoyed it!