With the New Year drawing closer what better time to evaluate how negative your mindset has been this past year. And, what you can do differently this year to not be as negative.
Have you been harsh on yourself for not achieving all you set out to do this year? Do you criticize yourself and constantly worry about things that aren’t in your control?
You worry about making decisions. As well as what other people will think about those decisions too. I bet you know all too well that this mindset is only holding you back in life. But it’s a hard mindset to change.
Negative thoughts chip away at confidence and self-esteem. It’s a slippery slope, and the longer it goes on the harder it is to get back out of. The only way you can change your mindset is to put a plan into action.
So you are fed up being negative. You want to change. Be more positive, and start living more. What do you need to do? Read on for 7 easy to action steps to switch your mindset from negative to positive.
Think about How Your Thoughts Are Impacting Your Life
Start actually taking notice how your negative thoughts are impacting your life. I can guarantee you two things. One, they are having a huge negative effect on your life. Two, you do not realise how much of an impact until you start taking notice.
Start taking a few minutes each day to reflect on what has happened throughout the day. Make a mental note of all the things that you ‘think’ did not go well. It helps some people to write thoughts down too.
You will see a pattern developing over time. Along with ways to avoid these negative patterns, and how to see the triggers before they happen.
Start Being a Lot More Honest with Yourself
If you’re being negative you are not being honest with yourself. Because you have a lot more to offer with a positive outlook. These thoughts are like a self-sabotage, holding you back.
Think about some of the things you worry about unnecessary. Flying is a good example for many people. They worry about flying and get all worked up, yet it’s out of their control. And, it always turns out fine when they land at their destination.
Don’t Be Afraid to Turn to Friends for Help
Friends are friends for a reason. Because they are there for us when we need them. Don’t be afraid to turn to them for help in times of need. I’m sure you would do the same for them.
Chatting about why you have negative thoughts and are so hard on yourself will help massively in dealing with the thoughts and emotions. You might even find someone who understands exactly how you feel.
It’s Ok to Worry, Learn to Control It
As humans we are born worriers. Worrying actually helps us in a number of ways. It keeps us honest and on our toes in some situations. It helps us be aware of potentially dangerous situations, and much more.
It’s worrying about things that are completely out of our control, and letting it take over our lives that is the problem. Some people have learned to deal with this by managing their worrying.
They actually have time put aside when they can worry and get all the thoughts out. It makes them feel a lot better to run over all the potential scenarios, and kind of get it out of the way.
Flood Yourself with Positive Thoughts
You only have so much thought space, right. If you fill your time with positive thoughts and engaging in activities that you enjoy, you will not have as much time for negativity.
This doesn’t work with severe cases of course. It’s like a light-hearted approach to getting over small bumps in the road. But it absolutely works. Spend more time with positive people, friends and family.
Identify Your Strengths
If you don’t think you have any strengths or qualities to offer others – you’re wrong. You have a lot of great qualities, everyone does. It’s just a case of doing an honest evaluation of yourself.
Congratulate your successes and treat yourself when things go well. There is no need to be modest. Good things only happen because you make them.
Start Believing in Yourself
Like I mentioned at the beginning of the article. Change needs to come from you. Identifying the need to change your mindset is the first step, doing something about it is the next step.
Confidence is a fragile thing. It’s like building blocks, you can add to it slowly over time, and eventually it will become a large unshakable building. You’re the only one who can truly make a difference.
Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. He started this blog to help others find and define their own self development journey. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future.